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writes:hey guys I really need everyones opinion on this please im realllllly confused atm...I recently found out that my boyfriend slept with his ex girlfriend 3 months into out 10 month relationship... it was a funny way we started the relationship... ( we got togther only a month after they broke up.. purely coz we were unoffically seeing each other while he was with her however i didnt know he was with her until we offically got together) so anyway he carried on talking to her after we offically got together and one day they slept together...know i always had suspected but he always told me when they spoke and when they met (only once) which i respect him for but one day i phoned her and asked her what really is the issue between them... she told me that they slept together once and thats it but she had no idea i was on scene...anyway after all this i asked him and he denied it at first but then accepted it and apologied...now hes realllllly sorry and he is trying so hard to make it all better... hes stoped talkin to her completely and has also introduced me to his parents and all his close friends to show to me that im the one he wants to marry and be with for the rest of his lifes.... hes cried and cried and pleaded me back and said how much he has changed from what he used to be and to what he is now and thanks me for that...At this moment i love him so much and am somewhat looking in the direction of giving him a chance to make it work but im not sure... his track record isnt great but i have seen him grow and change... for the better... what would you advise me to do... please don't be horrible I'm in a really fragile state... and we both love each other so much now more so then ever... though can a person change like this... HELPSORRY ITS SO LONG :)
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 Personally I think you are the rebound girlfriend to him to get over his ex. he probably is still in love with her and she doesn't want him so you are 2nd in line and he doesn't want to lose you because who else is he going to run to for sex. I know you love him but if he truly loved you would he have had sex with his ex and not you? You guys are only 10 months into the relationship. there shouldn't be drama at this stage. Only pure love, trust and respect for each other. the way you got together, it looks like he was playing both of you girls. I wouldn't trust him. You can give him a second chance but something tells me if you do, get ready for another heartbreak.
And answer your question. People do change, but your man's not going to change. For one reason he's too young and probably too immature.
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reader, lena1 +, writes (17 February 2009):
 they say who can cheat once can cheat twice.
but if you certainly sure he regretted what he did you can give him another and last chance.
i hope he does not betray your trust again.
good luck
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