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writes: my ex bf is dating my best friend but i still have feelings for him.my boyfriend of 2yrs told me he liked my friend of almost 5yrs. at the time we were having problems but were still sexually involved. my friend knew i still loved him cos i told her everything. i felt so betrayed and i stopped speaking to both of them immediately and am not sure whether or nt they are together(i think they are). but the problem is that i still like him. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): Well i can make this short. My best friend of 13 years is dating my ex. boyfriend. He was her first and i dated him so i mean yea that's bad, but is it still ok for her 2 do the same thing knowing how i feel about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): my friend who is now my ex-friend is going out w/ my ex-boyfriend and thats really messed up b/c i still have feelings 4 him=( im really mad at her.... our friendship ended as soon as i found out they were going out b/c as a friend she shouldnt do that to me....i want to know if he still has feelings for me but i doubt it b/c all we do is argue when we cross paths and he ignores me...he's so difficult to get along with that i can't stand being by him because he always has something smart to say...he basically is acting cold-hearted...i feel miserable b/c even without him i feel depressed its really getting to me that i can't even eat that much...wen we were together he did not treat me right...so i dumped him b/c of that....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): I was dating my boyfriend for a very long time and i grew to love him.. Little did i know my bestfriend of 11 years was talking to him half way threw our realtionship telling him how she wanted to get with him. He apparently started falling for her and left me for her. Worst part is she denied everything and when i approached her about hooking up with my ex one week after we broke up she said she did and then when people got mad at her for it she asked me to stick up for her, THE NERVE. the worst part is what she thinks she did WASNT the wrong thing, she thinks she was right and it wasnt a big deal. everyone said i shudnt b her friend anymore, but its been 11 years and i guess im a forgiving friend shes put me threw so much shit like losing her virginity to him, and hooking up with him in front of my face. im sick of her
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): I feel that best friends should not date an ex boyfriend of yours. It's just a known thing that you don't do. People say "Oh, well, she's still your best friend, forgive her for dating your ex." But what about them? If you really are their best friend, they shouldn't date your ex in the first place, and they should put your friendship before getting a guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Unfortunately, there is not a lot you CAN do so far as your ex is concerned. I can understand that you feel betrayed, especially as she was your friend. However, since he is your EX bf he is free to date (or not date) whomsoever he wishes. So are you - though you may want to wait a while before beginning to venture out into the dating world again, until you are more healed from this experience.
Meantime, take it a day at a time. If there is anger, or tears, let them be present for you. The hurt will pass, esp. if you don't dwell on it.
And take care of yourself! Take time to do things you enjoy and spend time with family and other friends! If there is someone you feel comfortable talking to about what has happened, and who will not be judgmental, then do that. Get a manicure or massage! Throw your energies into your work or schoolwork, and recognize that your relationship with him is now past.
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reader, xNatx +, writes (30 December 2006):
 Hi, the way it seems to me is that your friend cant be a true friend if she new how you felt. Does your ex no how you feel about him? You should try talking to them both together and tell them how you feel about him and your friend letting you down they may understand and realise what they have done to you. I hope this helps.
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