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writes: My ex best friend told me she didnt want to be my best friend any more. She said i brought stress to her life. I don't know how but she said i did. I cried so much. That was in june. We have 2 classes together this year. She seems so happy and stuff. She really hurt me badly... I begged her but she still said no (june) so it is now septemeber, and after seeing her every day for last period i feel sick and every day i come home crying. I'm not allowed to be her friend anymore.. I dont really want to be her friend either anymore after she hurt me. I'm crying because she hurt me so badly and she doesnt care. I just want to get over this. I have called on friends, i have called on family, and i even called on god. I dont know what else is left?
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Same as the other 2 people who answered your question, I can totally relate to what you wrote, in my case my best friend in the world simply stopped returning my calls without even explaining what did I do wrong or giving me a chance - it hurt so much for a while but eventually stopped, I guess you just get over these things eventually no matter how painful they are. I'm sure in your case it's particularly hard to forget because you get to see her in school but I dare to promise you it WILL happen in time.
I agree with peacock20, it's important that you forgive yourself first. Sometimes people change and inevitably drift apart which is probably what happened to her when she decided to stop being friends with you - you did the best you could and there's nothing to feel bad or guilty about, even if there actually is it's all in the past and absolutely not worth of you beating yourself up over.
After forgiving yourself and accepting things as they are, it will probably still hurt. I know it's hard to remember all of the fun things you did together etc., it's always like that when a relationship ends just because the other person wanted it to, BUT I'm sure it's only a matter of days the 1st time you come home without feeling sick and in tears; I could compare it to listening a sad song or watching a sad movie over and over again - the more you do the less touching it gets.
Try focusing on your other friends and family, not expecting them to replace her because most likely no one will, but just spend more time with them getting to know them better and try finding new ways of having fun, anything you never needed your ex best friends for. Hang in there and please don't let it affect your confidence in any way - shit happens, people leave, it's just the way things are and no one's fault. Wishing you best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): You have to forgive yourself first. Maybe in the back of your head you blame yourself. Don't. She chose to go one way and you were not part of her plan. I bet if you start forgive yourself and forgetting her, u can succeed. I was in the same boat a few years back and know how it feels. My friend, after "accidentally" having fun with me, became my friend again. If you show her how much fun u used to have together, she might change her mind.hope this helps :)
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Ok ... so I must share with you my story cause reading this made me cry, knowing that someone else out there is having not close, but word for word the same problem as I am. Although mine involved fight after fight, before that and I still don't know how she can just drop me. After this last and final time I told her how I hated that we went from talking everyday to not at all, and that I wished we could just slowly work through it, and that I missed her. Flat out she told me to screw off that she didn't care what I had to say cause she NEVER wanted to be my friend again. So i've given up on the crying and wishing I had her back. It is worse then waiting on a boy. I am just going to have to live with that fact that she left me behind. That she left behind some one who was always there for her. That when no one else would back her up I would. I don't feel sorry for myself anymore I feel sorry for her.
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