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writes:This might be long, so I thank you in advance for reading! Some background: when I was 15, I had a huge crush on a guy who was NOT interested in me at all. I was his exact opposite, loud and wild, and "scared" him. I never forgot him, but moved on with my life. Fast forward 15 years, I am now a divorced mother with 2 young children. I am a full time college student. I got back in touch with my high school crush and we began dating. He knew from the beginning about my children and I knew from the beginning that he wasn't interested in having his own children. We were at cross purposes, but we fell in love. He started spending more and more time at my place and ended up asking me and my children to move in with him, which we did.Now, four months later, he wants me and the kids to move out. He works nights and the kids are up at 6am. I know he needs more sleep, I know the kids are driving him crazy, but at the same time, he KNEW what he was getting into from the start. As I said, we were practically living together before we officially moved in together. I understand his side but at the same time, I have NO resources, no way to get a place, nothing. I don't know what to do.... Any advice is appreciated! He has given me 2 weeks to drastically change things or we have to go....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Listen to CaringGuy he's read this man like a book. Reconnecting with blast from the pasts aren't a grand idea. They're best left where they belong in the past.
2 weeks is all he gave you? How inconsiderate. If it means moving back in with parents, any relative, or grandparents temporarily until you get back on your feet or find a part time job then so be it. You were an independent single mother before, it's possible to achieve that once again. Better start really thinking of your options, because you can't outstay your welcome.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 September 2010):
You remember years ago, when he couldn't accept you then for who you were? Well surprise, years later and he still can't. I'd make plans to move out, because things aren't suddenly going to change. You can't be the woman he wants, because he has no idea what he wants anyway. Even if you have to go to a hostel, it's better than being held to ransom by this guy who has yet again proved himself totally unworthy of your time. This is a great example to all women, that unless man wants to change for himself, he won't. He didn't accept who you were then, and years later he's not changed at all and can't accept you now. Not your fault at all. His fault. But you'll have to make plans quick to get away from him, or you'll wind up completely controlled.
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