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writes:I just don't know what to do here. My Ex-Bestfriend and me are now on talking levels after I found out she doesn't hate me she hates my boyfriend. She hates him because she swears he purposely touched her boob well play fighting with her one day. (they use to be friends too) So she believes he cheated on me. When I confronted him about this he admitted to touching her boob but it was not on purpose. That one I can just leave cause really even if he did he wouldn't cheat on me and if he did his friends would kill him then tell me. (They are my friends too one is my best friend and just his friend ohh and his cousin would tell me) The other thing is 1 time he was having thoughts about breaking up with me 1 month into our relationship and it was my Ex-bestfriend he went to to talk about it with first. So even though it was now been a 13 month relationship she still holds that all against him. It's bothering me that the guy that I just Love being with is the reason we might never be friends again. what would you do in my situation?
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Thats a tuff one. Because while I strongly believe that a girl should never drop her friends over a boy it the girlfriend here is the one that is making waves.
Maybe you should just explain to her that he is sorry but it was an accident and while you appreciate her loyalty it wouldn't be fair for her to try and make you chose between her and your BF at this time when you need and want them both in your life.
Then add that if anything like that ever happens again you would certainly chose her friendship over an untrustworthy BF.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Um, in your situation, i don't think the problem lies with you or your boyfriend. It's your bestfriend who has the problem. She needs to stop making such a big deal out of something small. You've talked about it with him and you've both accepted what happened and moved on. She needs to aswell. Tell her that you know he didn't do it deliberately and ask him to verify that. Maybe that won't work but she needs to stop because she's throwing you into doubts and giving you cause for insecurity and that's not what bestfriends do. Talk to her or you could end up losing your boyfriend and bestfriend.
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