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writes:My ex girlfriend and I talk about working things out on a very deep, personal, and regular basis, but her new boyfriend is ten years older, four inches bigger in penis size, and gives her drugs. She says she wants to get back with me and as soon as I'm about to fly her from KY to HI he either calls and/or picks her up.What Can I do to win her back completely? And why would she want to say she is coming and get prepared then as soon as he pops in just go with him, leading into her bragging about his performance in the bedroom, fancy dates, mature, working and how great he is. After all the bragging he won't call or text or see her for 1-2 weeks then the process repeats. Can anyone help me out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2016): Sorry man, in her eyes he's better then you. Its clear she knows you will wait around for her. Believe me he is not stopping her from getting back with you, if he was he wouldn't disappear for weeks on end. Wake up and smell the coffee, your just not higher on the priority list for her right now. She is keeping you around because he is being flaky with her. If he was solid she would have been long gone buddy. I know it hurts but its the truth bud, trust me I have been their done that. Don't let yourself get walked all over. Every man gets hurt at some point but a REAL man knows when to get up, dust himself off and keep it moving.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 April 2016):
 I think you need to re-think this reunite thing again. IF she was REALLY keen about getting back to you and HI she wouldn't let this guy distract her.
I think she is playing games, with BOTH of you. She is using YOU to make the BF jealous and she is using HIM as an excuse as to why she can't move back and be with you.
Basically, I think she is full of shit.
While HE (the BF) might fulfill SOME of her needs and wants he doesn't fulfill them 100% that is why she is keeping you around. MY guess is.. you are giving her the attention and affection he isn't. And since HE is there and you are not, he is giving her the physicality of a relationship.
Their relationship isn't very stable, so she keeps you as a spare because she knows at some point HE will have had enough of her and then WHO will rub her ego and "take care" of her?
I think overall though, you are fooling yourself if you think she is keeping contact with you out of love. She seems rather self-centered and selfish. It's ALL about her.
If you have ANY common sense you drop the contact and let her go. SHE had CHOSEN to be with him. No one is forcing her to date him. And IF she wants to get back to HI and you... well, then THAT is on her. She will have to work and EARN the money for a ticket.
Why not? If you don't want to be single... find a girl who is not only AVAILABLE but geographically available? Instead of wasting your time on this girl?
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reader, Garbo +, writes (17 April 2016):
 You need to look for another girl, and not worry about penis sizes. Penis size does not determine a relationship. That girl would have left the guy she is with if she cared for you. Irrespective if it's drugs or whatever, that girl does not care about you one bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2016): "What Can I do to win her back completely?"Nothing."And why would she want to say she is coming and get prepared then as soon as he pops in just go with him, leading into her bragging about his performance in the bedroom, fancy dates, mature, working and how great he is."Why would you want to even consider getting back together with a chick you treats you so contemptuously. That she feels the need to throw her new boyfriend's dick size in your face should tell you all you need to know."After all the bragging he won't call or text or see her for 1-2 weeks then the process repeats." Only because you let it. "Can anyone help me out?"No. If you don't have the common sense to know she's using you for her own purposes or the self-respect to be grossly offended by her treatment of you, then no advice anyone can offer can help.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 April 2016):
 Kentucky to Hawaii right?
She is not interested in reuniting. If he's that great, in bed and mature too, then why wouldn't she want to be with him? She's only talking to you because he ignores her for half of the month and she wants you to fill in the gap. You should not pay for the airfare because you are going to get heartbroken again. She's taking drugs too so she's really bad news for you, or for any decent guys.
So you are both from Hawaii but then she left for Kentucky for what? Job or new boyfriend? Uprooting your life for a boyfriend sounds like an unstable lifestyle. How is a young guy like you supposed to afford plane trips like these?
A good relationship is so much more than penis size. She is a user. She needs her life sorted out and not depend on guys to make it easy for her.
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