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writes: Please someone help me,I started sleeping with my ex just after he finished with his girlfriend at the time. My ex started giving me the wrong impression. i thought he was still really liked me, so i made the first move and now he has told me he doesnt want to meet me no more because its obvious i still like him and he doesnt want to hurt me because he doesnt feel the same.I was so happy before i started sleeping with him again now i feel like he has just messed with my head some one please help!!Thanks Kelly
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2006): You made a move based on an assumption you were wrong about. If he didn't lie to you about anything then he's not exploiting you but if was giving you a certain impression to get that response from you knowing it wasn't going where he was suggesting it would go then he's in the wrong.
At the end of the day if he's not going to be with you you have to move on.
If you're only sleeping with him because you think you're getting back together then stop.
If you know you're not going to get back together but still want to sleep with him and are okay with that then thats fine and up to you and him to decide how casual you want to be.
I can tell you from experience that I broke up with my last ex and feelings were still strong. We had sex in the break up period after talking and I stated that if we did it wouldn't mean we'd be getting back together and she said fine. After a while I realized that even though she said she understood that we weren't getting back together I could tell it wasn't the way she really felt. I know that by being with her I was fanning an old flame and I had to, with difficulty, stop sleeping with her. I was wildly physically attracted to her.
I didn't want to be the guy who was preying on her fragile emotional state.
Be strong and don't let him do that to you if he doesn't have the strenght or class to cut it out himself.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 Consider it a lesson learned. Time to move on. Good Luck!
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reader, shania  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 He took advantage of you... he knew you were still keen on him but instead of him walking away,he decided to sleep with you,the guy is a love rat.I know you are hurting and you are annoyed with yourself for whats happened but brush yourself down...hold your head up high and say to yourself that its his loss not yours.You will get over him.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (27 January 2006):
 I feel for you, and I am sorry that this experience left you confused and most likely you felt used.
The best thing you could do is to talk with him before you slept with him. Dont assume that just because you slept with him, that means you are back together as a couple. He is not going to look at it that way. If you are offering sex to him, then he is going to take it. Dont make it easy for him if there is a next time around.
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