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male
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30-35,
*cclareng3
writes:So me and my ex after a 3 month break up reconciled meaning that we went on a date, but many things have changed like the fact every since the break up she started liking this guy alot and I had sex with this girl that i liked (but regret having sex). So after our date, such a coincidence, she was going to meet this guy over the weekend because he goes to college and lives about 3 hours where she lives.. It really hurt knowing that she said she will probably make out with this guy and she said she has the right because I had sex with another girl.. and were still single. .. So she came back after her 5 day weekend and she told me they made out every night but no sex and she realized she didnt like him like that and she really wants to be with me. She said the reason she made out with him every night was because she felt pressured and was drunk and also felt bad because why would a guy drive 3 hours for no reason.So I don't know what to do now, I want to be with this girl but at the same time kind of disgusted by her actions and hurt by them also. I know for a fact we still have strong feelings for each other, but I don't understand the logic of her actions. does this happen?? should I believe her?? Is she worth it?? or do I just move on??
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (20 April 2011):
Oh my, talk about immature. Hopefully, you will learn a valuable lesson from all of this behavior and both of your bad choices. If you decide to have sex in the future, make certain you use protection. But, back to the questions you asked. You have no control over what this girl does. You can only police your own morals. Take what you learn from all this and the regrets you are experiencing, and move forward. I think it will be very hard going back together, knowing what has happened in both your life and the actions of this young woman. Sad to say, we have to live the outcome of our choices and actions. They cannot be erased from our memory!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 April 2011):
 Am sorry but as you said you are both single and free to do whatever you both like. You have no right to judge her as you yourself had sexual intercourse with another girl. Even if you regret it its not the point. You are single now and so is she. She has the right to do what she pleases. It has nothing to do with you anymore.
Ok so your ex girlfriend spent the week with this guy to see if anything would come of it. She felt pressured in to making out with him. Obviously this is one of the reasons that she feels he is not for her as no girl should ever feel pressured in to these things and I feel bad for her that she felt that way. Her being drunk is not an excuse. I guess she realised that after this you are the one she wanted to be with. I am guessing she done this to help her see that you are the one for her.
Now what you need to decide is do you want her back? You still have strong feelings for her and her for you and I actually think that you could both work on things. But you both need to agree never to mention anything that happened the last three months. There is no point upsetting each other. Move on with life and start a fresh. I bet you wont regret it.
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