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writes:I have a 2-year-old son and my ex has not paid child support at all.He disappeared into obscurity once the baby was a year old; it makes me depressed that he just fled from his child, he was a good, decent reliable man before we got pregnant (he's 3 yrs older than me).I found out this week from a friend on Facebook that he's now gone to Canada to avoid paying child support. The friend sent me a link to a photo of my ex in Canada posing in his swimshorts with some guys [one wearing a bikini with the Canada flag] - it's like he was sticking two fingers up at me.What action can I take about this, and do you think he'll want to see his son at some point in the future, maybe 10, 20, even 30 years down the line??need some help.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 if you do not have court ordered paternity and child support I would get that NOW. I am not sure how international agreements would work so a good lawyer is in your best interest.
even if he does not pay now later on he will still be responsible for what he owes NOW.
as for wanting to see his child later on... it's possible.
I would strongly suggest you stick just to the facts as your child gets older. NO bad mouthing dad no matter how much he deserves it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 You have to prepare that your child will never have a father but you must expect child support from him. Does your friend know his address in Canada? Can you ask his family where he could be? Unless he is Canadian, there is no way he can stay if the government knows that he is avoiding child support. He will be deported. It's a crime. You know his name, his previous address. You just have to find out more like social security number (your country's equivalent).Unless he is really stupid, he knows he can't stay. He might be getting a temporary escape from this situation. If it has been a year since his disappearance, then you are waiting too long. Why haven't you talked to his family members?
I think he would be too ashamed to see his son again. You will get questions as your son grows up but that will be another topic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2013): This is sickening, really. He runs off to Canada to AVIOD doing nature's duty of providing for his family? Eugh.... Hard to fathom people like that exist... But to try and help with your problem: Unfortunately I'm no lawyer but am sure most people on here will advise you that the first thing you have to do is get legal advice from a solicitor. Also try citizens advice bureau. Is he registered as the father? On the birth certificate? You NEED to get legal advice, try asking a lawyer online, get a free consultation. I'm sorry you have the burden of that excuse for a man as your child's father... I wish you so much luck and really hope you can work it out somehow. Don't lose sight of the fact you have the most precious thing in the world to love and keep xxx
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (19 August 2013):
First of all.....he is not a good guy. If he was any kind of a man at all he would be responsible for his son. It is obvious that he doesn't care or love him on so many levels. A child needs a role model that contributes to his up bringing. Money is not everything. He is a jerk!
Being a parent myself I know it cost a lot to bring up a child.
You need to contact a lawyer for assistances.
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