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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'am not the jealous type I'm very laid back and always tried to avoid drama by not hanging out with certain ppl. My husband got a lot of female friends he talked to form day to day I have not met them yet and they called him for advice all the time. One of them was his best friend's ex wife and I warn him about her before that I have a gut feeling she's trouble, she send pics of her boobs (boob job) to his cell and he told her not to do it again cause his wife might take it the wrong way so she got angry and broke off their friendship (husband and best friend) cause she told her ex husband my husband was trying to sleep with her. One of them keeps calling for advice cause she's so lonely (divorced) and have not have sex in a long time and one called cause she wants to hang out but she don't have a boyfriend to hang with.......One called cause wanted to skype...Lately one called cause she is going through a divorce and she needed some support, first I was very against him getting involved in this woman's divorce just b/c I don't want anyone to advice our marriage to get a divorce one day, When I talked to my friends (females) they told me his female friends are drama queens and I should tell them to go find their own man to cry on instead of somebody else's man, One of my friends husband cheat on her with a female friend and she's very against me being nice about it she told me she regret being naive cause it all start out being innocent calls to cheating.....her husband tried to get back with her but she filed for divorce anyway. My friends also told me that these females are slowly sucking in my husband with their personal problems, Am I naive or should I tell my husband to back off talking to them? I talked to his male friends about it they told me that they never understand him cause they would never going to waste their time talking to a female friend for hours if they don't get anything out of it.....everyone I talked to about this was against it they all say my husband needs to let them go and some says this is an emotional affair ....is it ok for a married man to have close friendship with the opposite sex?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 August 2013):
 I think that women that are single are a danger to most marriages if they only friend the husband.
My last husband needed to be surrounded by women to stroke his ego... it was that I was not enough....
I would at least talk to your husband and let him know you are not happy about all the single and divorced women trying to be friends with him and not with you... that's a big red flag that they may be after something your husband should NOT be providing for them.
IF YOU tell your husband you are not happy about it, and he blows you off or disregards your feelings, you do have a big problem and I would watch it very carefully.
You cannot tell him who he can and cannot be friends with but often men are clueless about what a woman really wants... if after you open his eyes he still wants to be friends with them and exclude you from the friendships, I'd consider a separation to open his eyes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): It is ok for a married man to have close female friends but the friendship has to be appropriate, meaning there has to be boundaries in place that make it totally non sexual and non romantic. His friendships don't have those boundaries since the women are sending him pictures of their boobs and wanting to talk for hours on end with him about their romantic issues. Basically its ok if his relationship to them is like they are his sisters. He can be close to his sisters but no sister is going to send her brother a pic of her boobs for example and no brother wants to see his sister's boobs he would think it gross even if other men think she's hot. Since his friendships cross the boundaries, therefore it is not ok. Unfortunately you cannot stop it from happening if he wants to keep doing it he will find a way. Then he and his female friends might even gang up against you. Its best to first assume he doesn't know that his friendships are crossing the line so just explain. But if he refuses to accept it and make changes then you might want to re evaluate your marriage. Your friend whose husband cheated on her with his female friend - there was nothing she could have done. Being less naive and less nice would not have stopped her husband cheating because if someone wants to cheat they will. She should have been less naive but only so she could leave him sooner and save herself from the extra time.
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