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writes:Ok I feel so confused, rejected and embarrased right now I don't know what to do. Me and my ex went out about 3 years ago but he ended it suddenly and decided to go travelling it was awkward at first but we stayed in touch and became close friends again when he got home. He has always given the impression he likes me, for example:We go out alone like to the park for the day or out to lunch and he never lets me pay. At a family party last year a relative of mine picked up on body language between us and said he was watching me all night. He's done and said other stuff like be protective, became jealous around other guys and remebered the baby names i like for when i have kids...2 years after i told him. Plus he put me down as significant other on his staff discount list lasst year and always does the whole body language stuff like mirroring and eye contact.Well after all this time it was started to drive me crazy so i finally plucked up the courage to text him to say that i liked him as more than a friend, felt like a huge relief to say it but was worried i might have messed the friendship up if things didnt go to plan. Well they haven't he text me back saying he only sees me as a friend and hope i'm ok with this.Thing is i'm so confused, he is quite a shy person and doesn't really do the whole flirting thing with loads of girls and other people picked up on his behaviour with me. So why has he been acting this way if he doesn't have feelings for me? Just feel so stupid now and worried i've ruined the friendship. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWould just also like to add that he has not had another girfriend since he split up with me--thats why I and others thought that he had feelings for me.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 I don't think you've ruined your friendship but I'm afraid you will have to accept that that is all it is. Some people are so close to being the perfect person for you but just no cigar. That's probably how he feels about you. If it won't be too hurtful for you, he does sounds like he will be a great friend to have. You'll just have to decide if you can settle for that.
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