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anonymous
writes:HeyI am really struggling here.. My husband of almost two years is my first love and I love him o death. He gave me his password to is facebook account months ago and I sometimes check in. He used to be a major player and although we've known eachother on and off for 11 years, it's hard to trust someone with such a colourful past. When we first got married his exes called all the time and finally because he knew I had a problem with it he stopped them. So recently when I went to his account I saw he has been using the speed date application. Not something I think married men should do, so I removed it. But my question is how do I trust this man. I can;t confront him because then he'll know I checked up on him, but I feel very insecure about this.. Whta should I do. I don't have any signs that he's cheating and I don't really think physically he is but I am wondering if he is dong stuff behind my back online??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Are you sure he was actually using it? That speedate app. is like spam.. it ended up on my facebook although i never wanted it and when i went to go deleat my hub's account so we could make a new one together, it was on his too. But once i actually clicked on it, it came to a "fill in your information to start" page, eventhough it was giving him daily notifications of new women. So i knew he hadn't touched it eiter.
If there aren't any signs of cheating, and you're only suspicious beucase of his past, then you should really give him a bit more of a chance. The marraige is just beginning so you have a looooong marraige ahead of you if you're starting to get suspicious now. I think it's a really good sign that he stopped his exed from calling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Honey reading your problem is something married women go through everyday about their marriage. You feel insecure for a reason you intuition is telling you something and you feel the need to express it; and why shouldnt you. and if you feel so insecure that you cannot confront your husband to ask him not accuse him than maybe the insecurity lies deeper than you think. All married men are insecure at the fact of being a married man tied down to a controversial life , one woman man and there is alot of hussies wiling to jepradise that, so you have every right to be paranoid on certain terms. If you do not talk to your husband you loose communication especially about your worries. Everything happens for a reason remmember that... it may not be much but its a statement that I hope will help you. Good luck hunxxxx
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