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writes:My ex and I have been broken up now for a few months. She broke up with me after about a year of dating and after the break up it's been a constant roller coaster. There have been times where we fought and didnt talk for a while yet other times where we were basically back together. As of now it's probably the worst it's been. We are back home for the summer and we had a huge fight and now we can't even be in the same room it seems. Anyway, the reason I am writing is because we havent talked for a long time and after our fight I wanted to write to her how I felt in a letter...because she won't sit down with me to talk. It's basically a love letter and I will be giving it to her soon. For the last year I've been secretly learnign the guitar and i learned to play our song. We broke up before I could play it for her and I never ever told her I'd done this. Part of me wants to just tell her I learned to play our song in the letter because who knows how much I will talk to her again. After keeping it a secret for such a long time I had planned on revealing it to her in person but based on the way things are I highly doubt that will ever happen. I have pretty much given up on the idea of playing the song in person for her so I figured since I put so much time into practicing I may as well tell her. Do I tell her what'd I'd been planning or do i let it go? I'm torn right now and any advice would greatly help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlegioness-I agree that would have been the best way to do it but with how things were between us and how she is, i would have never gotten that opportunity :( I would've loved to do that because it would have been an amazing atmosphere like you said but unfortunately i was never given that chance!
Hey man, I feel you in this situation. Yesterday I drove over to her house and we talked for a bit then I gave her the letter and that was it. She didn't read it in front of me or anything but I woke up this morning to a few long messages in response to my letter. Trust me, it's not the fairytale ending you see in movies. She just basically said she appreciated the letter, thought it was very heart felt and told me there'd always be a place in her heart for me etc. She didn't confess her love or anything like that. What you do is totally up to you but the reason I wrote the letter wasnt to get her to fall back in love with me. I wrote it because I didn't want to have any regrets ya know? I Perosnally let things eat away at me if I don't get them off my chest. For my sake I needed to express to her what I'd been feeling. I'm sure your girl will enjoy the poems, why wouldn't she you know? I'm not sure if the girl you're talkin about has a boyfriend or what not but if she does she may think it is a little off to send love poems to a taken girl. However, my philosophy is I'd rather do something (send the poems) and regret it then not do something (keep them in your possession) and regret it and always wonder 'well what if.." Hope this helps man and I wish you best of luck. I'm sure you're a good poet and I dont see a girl reading them and having no response to it. She'll definitely have some sort of response, not sure what kind though because I don't know her. Good luck and let me know how it goes please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): dude i am in the same situation...its just that i am a poet and i wrote around 20 poems for her...even i am thinking if i should give it to the girl i loved..we were very good friends but we had misunderstandings...she thought i was trying to break her up from her bf..i didnt talk to her for 6 months but i talked to her some time back and she was pretty normal and just made some excuse that she doesnt want to talk to guys and stuff...i heard from her friends that she has no grudges against me and also talked to me for 2 hours..so i was wondering should i just give her all those poems cause it would just remain in my heart then..i guess i will do what you do ..please reply to this post
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 If you can do it, get her sat down reading the letter, then go off, grab your guitar after how ever long you think it'd take her to get at least 3 quarters way through it, then stroll in playing your song. I think that'd make the letter, especially if it's a love letter, and I could see it creating an amazing atmosphere :)
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