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writes:I've been dating a guy for 3 months now. We only see each once every two weeks as he lives 150 miles away from me.The problem is I seem to be torn between commitment phobia and separation anxiety, eg on our last date.At first I was totally happy and content and I knew everything was perfectly right. But all of a sudden I was so terribly unhappy and just wanted to run away. Everything he did was wrong. I feel ashamed but I have to admit that for a moment I really despised him.But now that he's gone, I want him to be here.What should I do to get rid of this controversial emotions? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 Your dilemma is not too surprising as you've only known him three months and only meet every two weeks, which means a total of six dates so far. It takes a lot more than that to really get to know another person and begin to get some idea as to how compatible you are.
I expect you're apprehensive about not knowing (yet) where this new relationship is headed and you'll "get there" whether separately or together.......tell us, how often do you and he talk during the time when you don't see one another? Do you have Skype? If not, I highly recommend it as you can see and speak with one another via webcam...... unless he actually said or did something specific to upset you in a major way, why not just try to relax and enjoy the times you are together? Just see how things go over the next few months and take your time!
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