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writes: i have been talking to a man from Egypt for nearly 4 years now and i find i am at a lost on many things. he tells me he is 30 years of age and yet i am 52. but when i talk to him everytime i find he is not a young man becoz of how he expresses himself. He has ask me to come to egypt and i loved to go , but im finding i am using excuses to why i cant come. Finance is the reason and i feel if i keep telling him this all the time that he will let me go. But he insist he can wait forever if need be. I have asked him why he doesnt want anyone in his own country and he said he doesnt want.We have a good honest relationship, but im concerned about the age difference. But when im talking to him i feel i am talking to someone on my level.I just want to know is age really a big thing in egypt? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2007): i AM A LADY JUST TURNED 60 YRS IN LOVE WITH A MAN OF 25 YRS. WE HAVE NOT DISCUSSED MY AGE AND I DO NOT LOOK THIS OLD. I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH AND HE LOVES ME. WE WANT TO BE TOGETHER EITHER IN EGYPT OR ENGLAND. CAN SOMEONE TELL ME IF I MARRY HIM IN EGYPT WILL HE BE ABLE TO COME HERE. WILL THE FACT THEIR IS A BIG AGE GAP BE A PROBLEM WITH THIS, I HAVE KNOWN HIM 1 YEAR AND BEEN TO SEE HIM MANY TIMES. WE ARE BOTH SO UNHAPPY AND WANT TO BE TOGETHER. HIS FAMILY LOVE AND ACCEPT ME.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): thank you all for ur responses....it is a big problem that i feel i have to sort out for myself ...i cant keep putting off the time to tell him i dont feel right in loving a man near to the age of a son...........thank u all again
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2006): be careful he could be after a uk/us passport.
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reader, Ceilidh +, writes (25 November 2006):
I'm assuming that when you say that you have "a good honest relationship" that this includes his being full aware of the age difference that exists between the two of you. So if it's not an issue for him, then I don't see what you are worrying about on that point. What ought to matter is that the two of you are content, not what other people think. However, if you're worried about Egyptian norms on age differences in relationships, why don't you ask him if there would be any challenges from his family, friends, etc. if you did in fact get together? That way, the two of you could be prepared to meet such challenges together.
I am wondering though why, if you have such a good relationship, that you are making excuses not to go see him, or why it is that he hasn't offered to come see you. Is it a matter of neither of you being able to afford to travel to see each other, or if there something else going on that you haven't articulated?
Cheers,
Ceilidh
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): I wouldn't be so concerned about the age difference as the fact that Egypt is a very different country to the U.K. or U.S.!
Most of them are Muslims and their culture is totally unlike the one you grew up in. If you got married to him, think about this: you would be marrying into his entire family as well, and maybe living with them. Wives are expected not only to obey their husband, but their mother-in-law as well, and women have much less freedom.
You don't want to go there and then find you are stuck - i.e, without money to fly home, especially if they want to keep you there. I'm not trying to alarm you, but these are things you need to consider.
Plus, in telling you he doesn't want an Egyptian woman, and not really giving you a reason why, is something I would wonder about. You say you have an honest relationship, and maybe you do, but why won't he tell you about his lack of enthusiasm for an Egyptian bride?
I would encourage you to talk to any Egyptian women or men you might know here - maybe there is a society where people from that country gather socially, or even a local mosque, or you could check online. Be very, very careful here!
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