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writes: I am 15 years old and fell in love with a guy over the internet who's 19. I trust him and care about him a lot and couldn't imagine my life without him and he is in love with me. I would love to meet up with him but the problem is he lives in Australia and I live in England, so if we did meet up and still had feelings for each other it would be hard for us to have a relationship. But I can see my future with him. I don't want to leave my family and friends and I don't want him to leave his home but I care about him so much and all I think about is being with him. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): I totally understand what you are going through now. I am 14, and my boyfriend is 18. We met when I went to Crete, a Greek island in June, 2005.He worked in a restaurant that I went to daily with my family, but nothing ever happened, as I think he didn't want to come up to me because my parents were always with me! He made it pretty obvious he liked me though!!! I forgot about him when I returned to England, but I went back again in October 2005, and we, just by chance, met him again. I spoke to him and we talked quite often, and then we swapped numbers. I called him a few weeks after I got back, and we are now going back in April 2006, and he is coming here,to England, in June!!! My family dont really like me going out with him, but its my life and if it all ends in tears its my fault! But he tells me everyday I call him that he loves me and I really love him too! The distance is difficult-he lives 1700 miles away, but I love him too much to give it all up.Dont let distance ruin what you have with your dream guy, and I really hope it all works out for you!Good luck, and remember...Love prevails over all!
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reader, PrincessPea +, writes (12 September 2005):
Hi
If you've never met and have only communicated via the internet, how can you trust him so much? Be careful and realistic. Yes, he might be a wonderful 19 year old boy. But he might also be something completely different. Or at least he might not be the man of your dreams.
You have your whole life ahead of you. Just think where you were at this time last year. Think of how much has happened, how much you've grown and how much in your life is now different. Just as much and more can change before next year.
I hate to put a downer on things for you - maybe I am cynical? Either way, my advise to you is be realistic and careful and remember to keep going outside the house and enjoy life! Don't spend too much time on the internet talking to somebody you're not even sure you will meet. Maybe the man of your dreams is standing just outside your window!
Take care,
P.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (7 September 2005):
 Since you're 15 and living in England, there's almost zero chance of the two of you visiting and really getting to know each other, so why not treat this as an especially nice friendship for now?
You may feel that you're in love with him and have loads in common, but the truth of the matter is you don't know for sure any of the details that he's given you, so it's always wise to be a reserved and presume that most people "varnish the truth" (tell white lies) about themselves when then meet others on the Web.
You can both have an excellent friendship and be great e-pals for a few years, and if you're really, actually suited to each other - and if everything that you've told each other about yourselves turns out to be true - then you could consider visiting and getting to know each other in 3D.
I've been in your exact situation myself, and after 3 years, I went to visit my friend on the other side of the planet. He turned out to be a very nice guy and we're still friends, but contrary to expectations, there were no "sparks". That's just human nature.
Enjoy the friendship, even enjoy the fantasy, but remember the reality too.
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reader, pops +, writes (7 September 2005):
So what is wrong with having a pen pal who you like, enjoy exchanging emails with, but will never meet? Everyone needs a fantasy or 500 or so, and this is just your best one. Be happy to have it, and find someone closer to home to date.
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reader, daniella +, writes (6 September 2005):
sorry but its not going to happen internet love is soo diffrant from real love you may not think it but it is.
Its easy to say he loves you but he probably dont he may think your pretty and easy to talk to but you havent actually met in person.
I mean he lives in austraila you live in england and your 15 hes 19, but if you can see a future and you both want to meet then go for it but it probably wont happen how do u no he hasnt got anyone eles and you dont have a clue what he does in his spair time. good luck though
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