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writes:I just stumbled across these posts through google.I cannot believe what similarities I'm reading.I have such a "huge" crush on my doctor.He's always been a hot guy and I've been seeing him for about a year now. However just recently I can't seem to control my thoughts, emotions, etc.This doctor is in alternative medicine and is treating me for a serious illness that I've had for years. I did not know initially that I would start getting so hot and really bothered. (It really botheres me)! Being an alternative medicine doctor he does various forms of testing. These tests (are normal) and a series of touching on various body meridians are necessary to get an accurate update on how I'm doing (including with my herbal medicines). So now I'm at the point that I'm so ashamed of myself because I'm married and so is he. I don't really want to start a relationship...at least that type, on the contrary. I never would have thought in a million years that I would have this type of fantasy. I really love my husband. We've been married for years. I don't feel any disconnect with him emotionally or anything, but I don't know how to stop fantasizing over this doctor who makes me feel hypnotized. I just saw him yesterday...I get so angry at my feelings. I see him about every 3-4 weeks. I'm not sure if I can get away with it, but I'm hoping to stretch my visits to 6 weeks. He is very specialized and it's not so easy to transition. I wish I knew what to do. I'd never want to hurt my husband's feelings, and don't want him to think I want to leave him "ever!". My husband is my true love, so what's the problem...right? That's just it, I just don't know but I sure hope these feelings end and "soon!"
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 October 2009):
It's a fantasy, the same as if you fancied a celeb or something. Keep it that way, enjoy it.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (16 October 2009):
hi
i maybe able to put a husbands view on this we have been married for over 25 years. i know for a fact that my wife as fantasised about other guys andi know she is a little flerty some times. in fact she and i have done it as a turn on when we are far from home and on holiday which all helps to keep things happening between us. one time comes to mind when my wife was so hornie she almost exploded, i know she was thinking it was someone else. so i think you are normal and he is a doctor so i expect it will be one sided on your side
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): No problem. Just a fantasy. A turn-on for you, and it isn't harming your husband. Unless you think you're tempted to act on it.
Are you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): Aww your post made me chuckle a lot you sound really sweet haha.Look, you're totally normal.I'm a woman in a long term relationship (7 years, not quite a marriage but i do love the guy)- does that mean all of a sudden all other guys become unattractive? NOPE. I still check them out, flirt a little, fantasize a LOT. I have a really, really, really sexy chiropractor, who looks like a hollywood movie star. I swear I don't even need to see him anymore but I'm not going to stop going back.... guess why! Haha. But the thing is I'd never cheat on my boyfriend, never kiss another guy, or sleep with one, or anything. It's just fantasy and fun... enjoy it, it'll keep you feeling alive, and you're totally normal. It's not like you can control it anyway, it's biology!! We're supposed to be attracted to a variety of people!
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