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writes:My daughter has being going with a guy for the last 8 month. I have met him briefly when he has being to my house a couple of times.I cant say I know him only what she tells me about him. Some of the things she says to me about him and what he says to her I find worrying. He seems to put her down quite a lot and makes comments on what she wears and how thin she is. She is an attractive 20 year old and is a size 8 to 10.He hasnt told his family about her or his friends. He told her he keeps his life private, which by the sounds of it he does.Where I work, my work collegues and friends know she is going with this guy as we live in a small village and most people know each other.The thing is this guy's mother works in the same place and I say hello to her and sometimes we briefly chat. I know she doesnt know that her son goes with my daughter and I cant beleive she doesnt know as she is such a "gossip".Sometimes I feel like mentioning this to her but then I think its up to her son to say something to her. I dont say anything as my daughter wouldnt want me to so I respect her wishes. It just upsets me that he keeps her a secret and I dont know why. Does anyone think I should just keep my nose out. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): Drew 21, he is nearly 27 and I think his mother would have a problem with the age difference but Im not sure. He doesnt live with his parents and he doesnt spend that much time with my daughter. He doesnt have the best of families they a volatile sort of family who people dont bother with much.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 I'd be interested in knowing how old the boyfriend is.
I knew a girl who went through something similar. She was 20, she was dating a guy who was almost 30.
That age difference apparently was something that he was afraid to share with his family and friends, so he kept her a secret for quite some time. When he finally DID tell his family, he lied to them about her age.
I will tell you that i think guys are MUCH slower in getting comfortable enough in a relationship to talk to their family about it. I've been that way with every girl i've been with, but that period usually lasted about 3-4 months tops. Eventually it gets to the point where your family starts to ask questions about where the heck you're spending your time, ya know? 8 months does seem like an awful long time to not have your family know.
Still, i think it's up to him to speak to his family about her. I definitely think you're doing the right thing by keeping quiet.
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