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writes:So my dad and my two uncles (his brothers) have a feud with my aunt (their sister). This is the story (or as much of it that i know).When i was a baby (so about 15 years ago) my aunt kind of went off the deep end. She would call my dad and uncles and just scream their ear off, curse then out, and then in the background you would hear her husband egging her on. My parents an my uncles and their wives all had the same conversation at the same time. They didn't want their children growing up around that type of behavior, so they told my grandmother that. My grandmom talked to my aunt, saying she could come over with he children, but she could not bring her husband, who was the instigator for all of this. My aunt responded with "well if my husband can't come then i won't". So for the past 15 years, she would drop her kids off at family gatherings until they could drive and pick them up later. My uncles/dad stopped talking to her, and the only family member she would be in contact with was my grandmother. A few years ago my grandmother died, and my aunt and my dad and uncle had to come together for the first time. They were...polite towards each other. It was the first time i'd ever met my aunt, and she was lovely to me and my siblings, telling us how pretty we all were, trying to squeeze in 12 years of not being there into a few hours. My maternal grandmother was at the wake, and they were talking, and my grandma said "oh wouldn't it be nice if you all continued talking" and my aunt got very emotional about it. But after they didn't continue talking. I overheard my mom once say that it was too late, and too hard to do anything.What do you think? Is there hope for this broken family?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 July 2012):
 I think things could change, but it's not up to you. This is between them, the siblings. If they want things to chance then things can change. But if they don't want to then things wont change.
I think it depends a lot on your aunt really. She is the one who refused to see her other siblings after all, when she chose to not attend family gatherings. She is also the one who did the screaming and name calling. Maybe her husband egged her on to it, but none the less. She was a grown woman then and a grown woman now, capable of making her own decisions. She could have kicked her husband to the curb if he was no good, but she chose to stay and give up her family for his sake. So, I think it depends on her.
You could try talking to her yourself if you want to, and if she wants to. But you can't make the siblings talk to each other. And, you probably don't know the full story either, so just be aware that there might be skeletons in the closet that you might not want to reveal.
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