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writes:So ive been dating ths guy for like almost 4months an were pretty close. But how do i know he isnt cheating? i mean i know he texts other girls but is that all..? im not really the jealous type, just the curious type. Please dont comment if your just going to say "talk to him".
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): He sounds like my husband, he got lots of female friends that texted & call him for atupid advice. Tell him you wanted him to pay attention to you more not his phone, I dated him for 5 years before we for married & he's been doing this for that long, im not the jealous type either I ignored it since he's not sleeping with them BUT eventually it got into me after 7 years, long story short his 2 of his female friends got into an argument with me, they told me they know him longer than I do & that I need to back off & chill out when they needed to talk to my husband, my advice is just becareful your very young, my advice is don't marry a female friendly guy in the futer ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): Just because he has female mates and he communicates with them, doesn't mean he's cheating or is likely to cheat.
People often cheat if they're not happy and are drifting apart in a relationship. You said you are both pretty close, and you haven't mentioned any stresses on the relationship or falling's out that would lead to him cheating, so I don't think you have anything to worry about really.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (30 July 2012):
 Well what do you mean by 'he texts other girls'? Are these girls friends? Or are these flirty texts to other girls that he is attracted to?
If they are just friends he has had for a long time and they are normal friendly texts then I dont think you have anything to worry about, it is unlikely he is cheating.
But if he is sending flirty texts to other girls that are not friends, and they are more like the texts he sends to you as his girlfriend then he is ALREADY cheating on you, this is called emotional cheating. Just because he is not meeting up with them doesnt mean that it isnt cheating, it is just a different type of cheating. He should not be flirting and getting to know random girls, if he is your boyfriend and you are comitted to each other then there should be no other girls in his life unless they are just friends.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2012): You can't know you will just have to trust him. If you aren't willing to talk to him, then it isn't much of a relationship and won't last. No-one here can tell you whether he is cheating though. But just based on the fact he texts other girls doesn't show he is cheating. If your dating and haven't made it official that you are boyfriend and girlfriend or exclusive, then if he is flirting or whatever, it isn't cheating.
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