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writes: My father is on the sex offenders register for something he did 11 years ago. As his victims were teenage girls, this affected our relationship immensely as i was growing up, as supervised contact had to be arranged between us, and although i knew he would never do anything to me i was very aware of certain habits that can be described as worrying.As he commited his offenses such a long time ago he is now generally treated as any other middle-aged man and people seem to think he's harmless now as it's been such a long time. However, my brother and i have been noticing certain things that he does which may be considered as related to his history of being a phoedophile. My brother accidentally came across an abnormally large stash of pornography in my Dad's flat the other day. It wasn't child porn or anything, but there was so much of it that it caused my brother concern. Also, my Dad is very much into photography, and he openly takes pictures of women he finds attractive that he doesn't know, usually without them knowing that they are being photographed. He doesn't admit that he's taking these photos because he finds the women attractive, he pretends he's just taking photos of anything at all for the sake of experimenting with his cameras, seeing how they pick up different colours and textures etc. However, he never takes pictures of anything other than attractive young women. Back when he commited his offenses he got into trouble for photos that he had taken on a nudist beach that the police found in his house, which is why this causes me concern, as i'm not sure (and dread to think) what he intends to do with these pictures he takes.I don't know what to do about these issues. I love my Dad and don't want him to be in trouble with the law again, but i'm not comfortable with what he's doing. I'm scared to confront him about these issues as i'm unsure how he will react. What can i do?
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reader, nataliehayes2314  +, writes (29 December 2013):
I think that you should tell your dad how you are feeling but try to be subtle but yet still let him know where you are coming from. Maybe you and your bother could speak to him about it together so it is more of a 2 against one word type of situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): my father use to photograph me all the. when I was six my mom left us so it was just dad and I in the house and he would ask me to take off my clothes all the time. well being only 6 I just did what I was told that when he started tacking pictures of me well I was nude he also would dress me up in sexy clothes ans pose for him soon after he started molesting our goodnight kiss turned into long frenching all the time and he would rub my bare butt which I liked.He then moved onto rapping me everyday and telling to do stuff or he would spank me all befor my 7th birthday well by the time I was 8 I thought this was normal and I started sleeping around. well long story short I'm 28 now and i am all messed up in the head I go nude as much as possible and I only get off by acting like a little girl and getting spanked and domanated and I like exposing my self well my bf I live with now is a nypho so it works out. Your dad taking pictures of children at a nude beach does not make him a pedo. I love going to nudist clubs and seeing all the nude children little bodys running around they are very cute there is nothing wrong with looking at them. my daughter just turned 6 and I love seeing her little body everyday and I have lots of pictures of her. I would never leave her alone with her grandfather but she is alone with her father a lot but I know he would never hurt her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): I agree with Dr. Pete. On such issues that are of dire nature; especially with pedophiles...address your concerns with the proper authorities.
I think this man; your father, has a serious problem and his ongoing pornography addiction will only lead to "fulfilling" his need for the desire of young girls.
I am sure that he long entertained such thoughts and pornography kept that wrongful desire at a point where it would become consuming and he would want to take action; and has.
Trust in your gut and talk to the police. I am sure they can stop by for a "visit".
Do what you know is right and take care of yourself.
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reader, rhc88 +, writes (20 July 2006):
 I know how you feel in a way, my (ex) step father was and always will be a paedophile. There is nothing really you can do, no matter how much you try they will not change. I don't think you should confront him yourself about these issues, speak to another member of your family. I'm sorry I can't give you more advice as this is a sore subject for me. Be careful and look after yourself. I hope you can resolve this somehow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): I can see what a dilemma you have.
All I can say is, if your gut feeling ever tells you that you think he is going to re-offend then it is your duty to report any concerns to the police or whoever was involved in his 'rehabilitation' (if there is any one)
I think you should certainly try and consult a professional organisation that can give you *proper* advice on what to do. People who are trained and experienced in handling this kind of situation.
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