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writes:Hey all, I'm a 21 year old MaleIn the last two year or so, I have been going on cam sites and looking at girls on and off. i used to pay money for it but stopped that about a year ago. I feel bad every-time I do it because within me I know I'm exploiting girls that often have little or no choice but to sell themselves. What is the general consensus of going on cam sites? is it seen as wrong? I've always thought its only as wrong as you think it is and with the way the internet has grown, especially the adult industry, on line cam sex has become big. but it doesn't necessarily make it right. I feel like i'm becoming addicted and I have a deep self loathing for myself. Id like peoples honest views on this subject as I need a perspective on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2014): Your entire post is supposedly about the adverse effect it's having on you; so it is obviously bad for "YOU!"
Nothing good for "you" should make you feel guilty, and at the same time lead you to an addictive-hunger for it. Perhaps your pleasure from it comes from thinking it's naughty.
You have the responsibility for your own mental-health to quit before any habit becomes a full-fledged addiction.
If you pay for it, going broke is a good deterrent.
I think cam sites appeal to a cross-section of folks who choose live-action interactive entertainment that offers a sense of control. Like CMMP says, you don't really have control. They are exploiting the user for their weaknesses, hidden depravities, and money.
It's safer than hooking up with freaks off the street, person to person. To say it's bad is subjective or judgmental. To each his/her own.
Anything is bad for the individual who has a propensity for "addiction" to any indulgence, be it sex or substances. Some have the predisposition to addiction through genetics; and lose self-control over their favorite habits. Which were once only meant as a simple past-time, or recreational activity. Live-action porn just isn't for everybody. The fact the user gets-off on objectifying another human-being really places the real power in the hands of the sexual-entertainer, if you ask me. They're the one pushing your buttons and getting paid! Blowing your mind!
Some people don't get pleasure without the guilt to add to the thrill of breaking rules; or rebelling against the restraints of society and conservatism. Pushing the envelop. We all have the inner nasty-boy or nasty-girl just wanting to get-out. Just different ways of expressing it.
Your sense of values conflicts with the exploitative aspect of that kind of entertainment; but your taste for porn apparently succeeds your desire to listen to your conscience. The more you're told it's wrong, the more pleasure you derive from it. That's how sexual-addiction works. The "high" loses its potency the more you use it.
It's not healthy to give-in to our impulses and indulgences that could lead to addiction. Addiction is a sickness. Now is the best time to seek help, before it completely takes-over.
We all give in to our guilty pleasures from time to time; but when it takes more and more to satisfy the appetite, then it has gone far beyond pleasure and entertainment.
These sexual-performers do have a choice; and once upon a time there were situations where young people or women may have been forced into it. Nowadays, it's just another potentially-lucrative side of the sex-industry. The performers are motivated by greed, sexual-depravity, sex- addiction, drug-addiction; or a lack of other marketable skills. They enjoy it because it's raunchy.
When you can't enjoy your entertainment for the ugly underside, time to take a break from it; or get help if you feel you no longer have control over your appetite for it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 October 2014):
 I think it's a little pervy to be honest, but nothing major, what I think is a lot less important compared to what YOU think.
Are you exploiting innocent girls? I think that comes down to what sites you are on, but like CMMP said, you are more exploiting yourself. You are paying money on negative feelings. Guilt, loathing, self hate is not really worth it, is it?
There are PLENTY of these sites that are FREE where people do not do it for money but for fun and games - would that makes you feel less bad? If so, look for those if you HAVE to ?
Do you socialize with girls? Do you have friends? or do you rather sit at home and ogle women for money?
And check out... http://yourbrainonporn.com/
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reader, CMMP +, writes (10 October 2014):
You got it backwards: if you're paying someone to get naked THEY are exploiting YOU.
They have a choice, and they chose the easy money over hard work. Most of them were probably highly sexual people to begin with despite the over exaggerated "forced into it" idea.
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