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writes:ok so my dad just pissed me off...i didnt know where else to go to get my mind off it and get some advice. i have a friend named Jared who i REALLY like. he likes me but the thing is he has 3 other girlfriends and im afraid to get hurt. and also i've never met him n person but ALOT of my friends know him and i txt and call him ALL the time. he calls me beautiful and he makes me laugh:D . but the thing is that i wrote his initals on my hand in a heart and my dad started pissin me off by b n all 'protective' and shit. i walked away from him and slammed the door..What can i do to not be pissed when i look at him?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): It's not like you had them tattooed on.
At your age you will throw your affection any way the wind blows.
He IS trying to protect you, but he needs to pick a his battles more carefully. You will need this sort of guidance for real in a couple of years and he will have burned himself out.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 December 2010):
 I can see why your Dad feels overprotective of you. You're kind of gullible. Oh well, no doubt you'll grow out of it eventually!
Take care!
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reader, xoxDrkrosexox +, writes (9 December 2010):
xoxDrkrosexox is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni met him on facebook but he gone out(dated) some of my friends. i talk to him on the phone like i JUST got off the phone w/ him and hes amazing also i text him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): You're scared of getting hurt, because you know you will. Your dad knows this even moreso because he was a boy of that age.
I was boy of that age and I used to love getting with girls like you. It was just too easy, even though you knew I was a dog, you REALLY like me and all I had to do is make you laugh and feed you some shit about being beautiful.
It was awesome. Because those girls always thought I was telling the truth, they used to draw my initials everywhere with their initials and they let me do whatever I wanted to them and as soon as I was done I went off with one of my other "girlfriends". I could treat as many of you as crap as I wanted there'd always be another sucker around the corner waiting to listen to my crap and it didn't matter how many girls I hurt there was always another. Because I knew all the right things to say and girls your age aren't smart enough to say no to a player.
In fact fathers warning their daughters about me only made them want me more, because instead of actually listening to reason they felt they knew right and lots of them got with me just to piss off their dads, then I;d get what I want they;d get their heart broken but I didn't give a crap because yes, you guessed it, there was always another fool waiting to get with me.
Life was great.
You wanna not be pissed at your dad anymore? Then have a good long think at why he's trying to protect you and what he's trying to protect you from. Essentially it's a guy like I was and I would have played you until you couldn't stop crying from the pain and not give a crap.
But maybe you need to learn that yourself.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 December 2010):
ok so my daughter has decided that I just pissed her off...i didnt know where else to go to get my mind off it and get some advice. she has a friend named Jared who she thinks she REALLY likes. this unknown guy has convinced her that he likes her but the amazing thing is he has 3 other girlfriends and has still convinced her to like him back. I'm afraid she's going to get hurt. She's never met him n person, he claims to be friendly with some friends of hers and she texts and calls him a lot. He's been paying her easy compliments and is trying to be charming to her. So my sweet and loving but gullible and over-trusting daughter has basically signaled that she isn't being sensible about this because she wrote his initals on her hand in a heart and I started pissin her off by b n all 'protective' and shit. She walked away from him and slammed the door..
So what my little girl doesn't seem to realize is that it is my job to keep her safe from creeps and losers and keep her from being hurt badly. I was once this guy's age and I know what boys are like. I know this guy is some kind of teenage player and I know that he's just playing with my daughter like she's some kind of toy. He probably texts a dozen girls like this and has more than a few convinced he is in love with them.
My daughter deserves to be treated like the wonderful and beautiful girl she is, and she isn't old or wise enough to realize that this guy is a phony and a loser who could care less about her. It's like beyond ridiculous that she's angry with me for calling her on her naivete but I'm the bad guy and believe me, I'm willing to suffer her anger if it keeps her safe. It's my job description, you see. My job is to keep her safe. Her job is to grow up, I hope she doesn't encounter too many freaks like this teenage text player but I guess it's part of kids' lives these days. I will do my damnedest to keep her safe and if she has to flounce around and be all pissed off at me, well, it's a small price to pay for her safety and well-being. I'm a big guy. I'm the grown up. I can take it.
So she can be pissed off at me all she wants. All I want is for her to think things through and not think with only her heart. She'll be a grown up when she can see where I was coming from. I only hope she makes it there safely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): That guy is a massive jerk. Don't lower yourself to only being one quarter of his girl interest!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 December 2010):
Thank God for your Dad. Whilst his reaction may be a little strong, I think we're all in agreement that the guy you like is a player who doesn't care about anything but getting notches on his bedpost. Sometimes it's good to listen to your parents. Perhaps instead of being pissed at your father for being protective, you should be pissed at Jared, who already has three girlfriends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Your dad is trying to protect you and do you blame him?? It's a guy with three boyfriends? Do you want to be abit on the side? I'm sure he called the other three girls beautiful too and he is calling other girls it to he has a reputation!! You really dont want to get involved with somebody like that
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reader, Nime +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You have a father who loves you. Deal with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): This guy sounds like a bit of a dick, if he has three other girlfriends! Also if you've never met him, how can you be sure that your feelings for each other are genuine? It might be completely different if the two of you ever met. If I was you, i'd arrange to meet up with him and see how the two of you get on. Go into this with your eyes open because of the fact he has three other girlfriends, don't let him sweet talk you into thinking it's okay if he has more than one. Think about these other girls too, how would you feel if your boyfriend was chatting to some other girl telling her how beautiful she is?! He needs so decide who he wants to be with and stick with that one girl. If he doesn't then he's just a twat and you should steer well clear to avoid getting hurt.
As for your Dad, he's just trying to protect you and look out for you. Be honest with him, tell him you understand why he's upset but that you like this guy alot. He'll understand, after all he was young once aswell!
Good luck, don't let this guy fuck you over!
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