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writes:I'm an 18 year old girl and for as long as I can remember, I've always been attracted to older male celebrities, like men that are 50-68 years old. I have to force myself to find someone my age to be attracted to. I've even had a kind of crush on a teacher who was 40 years older than me. I just can't find any guy my age attractive. My friends think I'm gross. Is this normal? It's not a dad issue I don't think because my dad's been here my whole life.
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reader, brit473  +, writes (10 April 2011):
Having read the advice and comments here, I've little to add - except one thing. I'm 43 and I So Dearly Deeply Love my partner who's 19. The situation has its little issues sometimes, but on the whole we're So Happy. Wont work for everyone, but sometimes....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 There is more then one type of daddy issue.
Getting along to well with your father can be an issue if it stops you from normal behavior with men your own age.
Why are you not attracted to men closer to your own age? Honestly? Maybe they are not relatively safe and harmless?
What would you say about a guy who gets along really well with his mother and prefers women of 50+? Would you say he got issues? Probably yes right?
Mind you, almost everyone got issues, if you are truly happy with it, then it is your life. There are worse things. Just be aware that any man of 50+ who goes after a girl your age probably has issues as well. No, I am not talking child molestor, but why would a mature distinguished stable intelligent male go out with a child?
I think the reasons you are attracted to very old men is that you are afraid of younger men. Why? Perhaps you just ain't ready for it. If that might be the case, be wary of starting things you are not ready for. You could just be a late bloomer. Crushes on older man are often experienced by young girls as a way to "train" for later with someone safe who won't abuse the girls new found feelings.
So, let it remain harmless until you feel certain of who you are feeling what for and why.
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reader, moon river +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Haha, I am the same and my friends react in EXACTLY the same way! There is nothing wrong with being attracted to older men! You just have to understand that wanting a fully functioning relationship with one will never work, but sex and a bit more would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Lookie here, you're 18. Now, nothing is wrong with being attracted to older men. I believe that perhaps too big of an age difference for marriage minded couples is probably not healthy. However, friendship, LTR, or just strictly sex? I say knock yourself out. Your folks probably won't like it; mine didn't. I was 20 and dated a 48 year old woman for about a year. As far as being on an emotional level, wisdom level, I had no business getting that serious with a woman that much older than me. I didn't know my a** from last Tuesday and after I became a police officer I realized that she was on cocaine or something of the like while I was with her. But as far as the sex....WOW! If I saw her today (that'd make her 58 going on 59), I would HAVE to seduce or at least try.
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