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writes:Hi, im new to this site and hope someone can really give me advice on what im going threw right now.... my topic is which lover do i chooseFirst of all i've been in a realationship now with my boyfriend who is now 24 for a year now..im 21 and when we first met he had a ok job cleaning kitchens at a resort.he lost his job and havent work sinse and its very difficult for him to find a job because he has a bad criminal record.i been sticking by his side while he is curently living on his cousin's couch and been taking care of by his cousin and family like he is an extra kid. When we go out he always complain about little things and never appreciate what i do for him and always want me to take time from my schedule to do things for him, but when i ask to go for walks and play tennis and simple things like that he gets mad,i was very unhappy. Recently i met someone who i click with and get alone with very easily, we started off as friends but someone we ended up a couple and now im with the two of these men. The new has a good job and car and does the things i like to do and agree with me that everything should be 50 50 unlike the other man.since the man i was with longer found out thier was another man in the picture he now wants to act right and should that he cares.what should i do(Mod Note: Do not use ALL capitals in your questions and replies.)
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reader, CherryLips +, writes (10 June 2009):
CherryLips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK THANKS
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reader, CherryLips +, writes (9 June 2009):
CherryLips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt wasn’t about money or anything like that.. I was just stating that I will do something for him and he will complain or whenever he wants me to do things for him I jump to it but won’t do simple things with me as far as walks and playing tennis and such..Now that the new guy wants to do those things without me asking all the time my old bf wants to do it now...and was wondering if that will change later down the line.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): It's funny how often a guy's loss of income makes his GF suddenly realize negative things about him that didn't bother her for a year before that.
And it's funny how often the guy that she does "click with" also happens to be doing better financially.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 June 2009):
The first guy isn't going to change. He'll act like he will or say he will because he's about to lose you. But as soon as he gets you back he'll resort back to his old ways. Stay with your new guy. He makes you happy and you didn't have to try or want to "change" him. He's just that way, and that's good!
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reader, CherryLips +, writes (9 June 2009):
CherryLips is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys I really appreciate it.(Mod Note: please do not use all capitals in your comments!)
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reader, Blondy +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Well, the jobless criminal who lives on his cousins couch does sound like quite a catch from what you've described...But personally I think I would pick the other guy. I think you should pick him too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): My dear.. did you read your own question? step back and have a look becuase it basically goes like this:
Should I be with the man who makes me mad and doesn't do anythign for me and with whome i don't get along or should i be with the man I really like and click with and have similar views to?
I think you know.
Goodluck.
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