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30-35,
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writes:Hi thanks for taking your time to answer this.I currently have a crush on one of my new friends here in college. He's just my type of guy which is rare at my college, we get along really well too. Last trimester we had a few classes together, I knew him through a mutual friend. Initially i had no interest in him. We hung out with friends a few times to study for midterm and final exams, however by the end of the trimester I've somehow developed a crush on him. By the time I realized my feelings it's already a new trimester and we haven't got any classes together and I have seen him only a handful of times in 5 weeks. I'm afraid he might loose interest, if there was any to begin with. But every time I see him he sends off mixed messages. For example:I'm the only friend he would hug when we wait to get in to class or go to club meetings and he 'announces' my arrival when we're around people (similar to how a guy would introduce his gf). But when we enter the class he doesn't bother to sit next to me but does occasionally look in my direction. The very last time i saw him he wasn't very bothered to make conversation and seem a bit down. I don't know if it's because he's just done with his swording class or not. I'm constantly telling myself "I'm over thinking it", but his messages makes me confused.Thanks again.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 February 2014):
It's going to be awhile before the skies part and the sun shines down on him, so you're going to have to proceed without definitive proof.
Just ask him out. It won't hurt.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 February 2014):
 Hi, why not just ask him out? He may be so extremely shy that he can't work up the nerve to ask you out. He could be one of those people who are socially awkward and just don't know how to treat someone. Or he may like you as a friend but not enough to date you.
If you really want clarity and a definitive answer to this then work up your own nerve and ask him out!
Or just text him and ask him to hang out with you.
Maybe he has a girlfriend and has a crush on you too but as he's take he can't really pursue you. If you ask him out or ask him to hang out with you then he'll be able to let you know.
Be brave, go ask him to hang out and then you'll know, one way or the either! It's not like him telling you he's taken or he just says 'no not interested' will kill you, right? The more you know what you want in life and go for it, the less you will regret when you are really really old. Like my age, ha! ;)
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