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writes:i was invovled with a guy older than me for about 2 and a half years, but recently i have started to get over him, and i thought i was falling in love with him...but everytime i meet my cousin i forget abt him ...i feel attracted to my cousin at times...he is younger than me by 2 yrs...and it feels wrong and i know it is but i cant help it...do i just like the affection i get from him or do i really like him? he always wants me to sit on his lap and kisses me and hugs me and finds ways to touch me (not sexually) and holds my hand...i know normal cousins do this but he doesnt do it with any1 else...so i get the feeling he likes me...how can i tell....i would really like you're advice....you can say its wrong i know it is...thats why i want u tell me how i can get over it....and i dont have a disturbed life...im just confused...has any1 been in the same situation ?.,..i need to talk to sum1 cause my family and friends will definately disapporve
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): There is nothing at all wrong with being in love romantically or sexually with your cousin, so long as you are both adults. You have said he is younger than you by two years. He's just a kid, so I think you should just keep your thoughts to yourself. Remember, fantasies are fine, and there's nothing wrong with you imagining him... just don't become obsessed, and don't act out on it. Try to think about other people, sooner rather than later.
Now, if you were 25 or 30, I'd be saying to tell the family it's none of their business.
Oh, you might also want to check out the law where you live. Here in Canada, adult cousin relationships are perfectly legal. In some families, it's taboo... but that's their problem. In some countries, it's against the law, depending on how your parents are related.. Is it your mom and his mom, your dad and his dad, or where the parents brothers and sisters? It varies from country to country. In SOME coutries, it's not taboo in the slightest. Just don't let other people think for you or make your decisions. Just be sure you both really are adults... Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2007): Difficult one. I believe that you cant always choose who you fall for, but obviously some situations have to be avoided.Not sure bout 'cousins'. Obv your family woudnt like it so potentially fraught with issues. Just consider it may be part of the process of moving on from your last relationship that you find affection from your cousin so attractive and it is not nescessarily bout him.
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