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writes:my cousin and i had sex last summer but i was drunk and he wasn't. well long story short, i love him so much and i think he feels the same. then about 4 weeks ago, we had sex again, and it was better than before!! well, he avoids me, and when it's just us, he's all touchy feely with me, and we kiss a lot and next thing you know, we have sex! Does he possibly feels the same way i do? and hint: he stares at me a lot whenever he is around me. is that a hint or a clue?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): You sent a PM to me with your real screen name so I found this answer to a girl around 13 writing about feeling sexual tension towards her first cousin and that it was weirding her out, this is what you had to say below:"it's fine!! don't be weirded out girl.! i have the same feelings for my cousin, and we had sex twice and both times were AMAZINGG. but don't strees and don't tell him how you feel, trust me baby i know. its just i'm jealous too because my cuzin has a gf and we f**ked twice while he was with his girlfriend in June and we f**ked again while he has his previous girlfriend. so don't worry. you'll get through it. trust me:)"So it appears that you cannot accept that your cousin is what I said he was and that he is simply using you for sex. He doesn't care about you at all or he wouldn't be doing this to you, he is a cheater and he isn't treating either you or his girlfriends right.Like I said in many ways you are finding new ways to be stupid. You told me you were in love.You are not in love, you don't know what the meaning of love is, you don't have enough life experience to know when a guy that blows into your ear to get what he wants and then disregards you is not someone that you love. He is simply someone that you lust after, having sex with him made you emotionally bond with him because that is the way women are biologically hard-wired, the same chemicals run through your body when you have sex with a man that run through your body when you have a child....your hormones and your mind is playing a trick with you.Love is not a feeling, it is action, it is a conscious decision to be a person worthy of love and put the needs of your partner above your own. You are not doing that because your cousin already has a girlfriend, and you are trying to disregard his relationship by having sex with him. You are infatuated and you are in lust, not LOVE. Learn the difference. And he is not in Love with you, he is using you and you are letting him.He owes you an apology and you need to stop having sex with your first cousin or you are going to end up the family black sheep and so is he.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Um... Remember this is your COUSIN!!! you know, your mom/dad's sister/brother's child............. Imagine this- what if you and him stay together and unintentionally get pregnant. How would you explain that to kid(s)? How would you explain that to your family?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I would have to agree with ForeverDawn. As for the other reply the legal age for consent is far lower then eighteen and if you two are in love and the state laws permit this which generally means you two are not first cousins then follow your heart and do what makes you happy because in the end that is what matters. Legally your in the clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes. he's my cousin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Having sex when you are not in a relationship is wrong. Having sex with your first cousin is stupid, and probably illegal. Having sex in your state before the age of 18 is illegal.Your cousin is a horny bast**d and you are his familial booty call. Too bad that you are ruining what could have been a lifetime relationship with a blood relative.For God's sake, what is happening to children today? You seem to be looking for new ways to be stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni wanna thank ForeverDawn!! she got my hopes high!33
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): He may be a little weirded out because you are cousins and that's usually taboo. You would have to assess whether or not you two feel that is an issue for you, and if it makes one of you or both of you uncomfortable, you would need to take that into account as to whether or not you feel comfortable pursuing an intimate relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Wait. This is your cousin?
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reader, ForeverDawn +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I think he might like you but is afraid to show his feelings around people My advice to you would be to stop with the sex for a while so you can figure out if he likes you and not just the sex. Just hold off sex and see if he still sticks around!!
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