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writes:HiI just want to know is it wrong for me to not think I'm ugly/bad-looking?I know I'm not exactly the sexiest, best looking 19 year old girl there is, but I don't think I'm ugly/bad-looking either. But I get girls that (in my opninion) don't 'look after themselves' in the same way that I do looking at me as if I'm ugly and treating me as if I'm stupid when I KNOW I'm not stupid (hey, I recently finished a college course in childcare with top grades, but it wasn't easy - I had to work really hard for that! And it paid off too, as I now have a great job in a nursery). Having these girls treat me like this makes me feel like I'm wrong to think I am not ugly.My confidence in my looks and abilities was crushed over a year ago by an ex, but I have slowly regained my confidence, but it just feels like every time I think of those other girls my confidence is crushed all over again.Can someone help me get over this and tell me if I'm right to think I'm not ugly?
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reader, jmac1344  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 If girls call you ugly thats not a really big deal, it's the guys who you should be worried about.
Guys like girls who consider themselves to be goodlooking, so long as they arn't conceited about it.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 People who look down upon other people are not happy with themselves so they look for other people who they think should suffer more than they do.
I think it's great that you have your confidence in your looks back and I think it's even more wonderful that you have the endurance to work hard for what you want, it's a useful quality in life.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and this seems to be especially true when it comes to women. I so often hear female friends and colleagues complain about their looks, but I can't see what there is for them to complain about. They all look wonderful in their own ways. One has wonderful red hair, the other has a smile that makes everybody else want to smile in return, another has legs that are really long... So go on thinking that you're not ugly, you're probably very pretty =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): Sometimes, people are jealous and they would want to put you down, just to make you feel inferior to them. You have accomplised a lot maybe they want to be like you. I am sure that you are beautiful.Don't let these low-lives make you miserable, be confident, be strong, tell yourself everyday that you are beautiful. Don't look at them, don't listen to them, just stay away from people, places and things that upsets you.Be like a lotus in a dirty pond. The lotus is a beautiful flower but it grows amongst the murkey waters ,ut isn't it still beautiful ??? Just remember this, you must be like the swan amongst those ugly ducklins.So beautiful 19 year old, good luck to you and keep a beautiful smile on your face.
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