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My conceited narcissistic boyfriend keeps putting me down and I lost all my motivation!

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Question - (7 May 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 8 May 2015)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hey everyone,

I have been in a relationship for 2 years and not so long ago I realised how conceited and a narcissist my boyfriend is!he is always praising himself and how good at work he is and how he is being praised at work,I mean it's one thing sharing but it's other thing just bragging the whole time!he puts me down saying how I am fickle minded and I can't do things and I am impulsive and immature and I am like a child and I don't do anything and it makes me think why does he do this!why for once can't he support me or say kind things to me!i am in phase where I don't have much going on and I always wanted to learn how to play the guitar so when I told him I want to learn he began telling me how impulsive i am and it takes 2 years to learn a guitar you can't just decide to learn how to play one and honeslty I lost all my motivation!

I am so sad and dissapointed!and today I spoke back and I said really mean things to him I told him he is a narcissist and a moron,I'm not not proud of what i said but I did!i sometimes think is it better to breakup with him and move on?what do you have to say about this?

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A female reader, Honeygirl South Africa +, writes (8 May 2015):

Honeygirl agony auntHon, do yourself a favour, Google Narcissism and related behaviours.. then decide if that is what you want to put up with.

You have only been with him for 2 years and already he treats you badly... don't stick around as it will only get worse!

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A male reader, Dean21 United States +, writes (8 May 2015):

Dean21 agony auntLife is far too short to live unhappy look at how fast you've grown up already why do you want to spend another day unhappy when you could be enjoying it with people that make you feel good about who you are.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2015):

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He thinks I am fickle minded and I keep changing my decisions and make decisions in an impulse,he said I am difficult and behave like a 6 year old and if I continue this way I would be a secretary to a bossy woman,then he said that my actions has severe consequences on his life too and forget about him but do to something good for myself!thats the brutal way he put it .i was trying to call a guitar academy but my calls weren't going thru so I asked him if he can make the call thru his phone to which he said "am I puppet to dance to your whims and fancies"

I always let it go because he says he loves and yes has uprooted his life to be with me but I don't know how much I can put up with!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (7 May 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony aunt"I told him he is a narcissist and a moron,..."

There's nothing shameful in telling the truth. The only real issue is: WHY would you spend another minute with this guy?

Good luck....

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