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anonymous
writes:I made a friend almost 2 years ago when I close a deal with the army. He's GI and married. We got along pretty well. He then split to his home base and since then been keeping email contact. We are business related still b/c of the deal but we are more friends than business. Our communications have been friendly, he's married and I respect he is married. He talks about family and I ask about them although I don't know his wife I acknowledge her existence.He's very gentleman and respectful. He says he enjoys our friendship and communications, that's really great I keep in touch with him. I had to call him after 2 years from the office (b/c of the deal) and he said is nice to hear from me, that he'll try to be more in contact and be better with emails.He said it's nice to hear the voice of a friend from long time ago and from so far. To me sounds fair enough. BUT, whenever I tell people we still are in contact they tend to look at me like if there's something else.Is it wrong to communicate with him b/c I really like his FRIENDSHIP and I don't see fair that I have to end something I don't feel wrong about. I have my life and so does he. Why can't we have a friendship?The only thing is that I don't think his wife knows about our emails!
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reader, ez4u2say  +, writes (10 November 2008):
If he is hiding this from his wife there is a reason. He wants more and your the only one who will get hurt. Tell him you would like to meet him and his wife for dinner. I bet he will come up with several excuses. Men and women can be friends but in situations like this it usually escalates or diminishes quickly. Simply put he is looking for extra curricular activity which means other than his wife. If he were such a good man as you say he would not hide anything from his spouse. Men and women cheat everyday but usually never leave their wife for the other woman. Your smart enough to know what to do next.
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