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writes:One time I envited my co worker to my vacant apartment which I was not residing on for months. I decided to stop by with her to pick up a bill to pay. She decides to use the bathroom. Honestly i did not know that the toilet bowl was dirty. She went ahead and told me that she had to use the toilet brush to clean it. That happened a while ago. Today, she tells another worker in front of me of that incident. and based it on my controlling ex husband. The conversation started on how controlling my ex was, so she decided to give that incidence as an example.I felt embarrassed and offended. Later that day i told her I felt her remark was unecessary and she apologized stating that she only used it as an example to how abusive my ex was. What should I have done in this case? Did I do the right thing?
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (20 June 2009):
Yes you did do the right thing you told her how you feel the question is if she is your friend why would she be telling your business to another co worker and what does your ex have to do with a dirty toilet you did the right thing she needs to mind her business and stop spreading gossip that isnt true you need to be careful what you tell people at work because it can come back to bite you on the ass sometimes its best to keep business business and personal personal feel me hopefully she took what you said to heart and will think next time she speaks in front of others
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 You cannot do anything more then to bring it to her attention, you have done the right thing and there is nothing more you can do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2009): Yes. If you had not told her how you felt about her comment, then you would have silently built up resentment and started to treat her slightly differently, unintentionally of course.
It's not good when you don't get things off of your chest.
And if you're asking was it ok that you were embarassed, then i say "yes" to that too. I would've been as well.
~SY.
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