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writes:me and my friend have been friends for near over two years. and he told me recently that he loved me and thought we were ment to be together but we live in different countrys he doesnt work enough for us to be able to see each other more than twice a year. and i do care for him but i just dont think hes the one even though i do imagine a future with me and him but is it just friends we should be or more ? we have had sex and its great but im wondering it doesnt feel wrong but doesnt feel right what to do ? anyone else felt like that thanks in advance LA Reply to this Question
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reader, Legioness +, writes (20 June 2009):
 Here's a few good reasons not to become anything more than the friends you are.. 1. You are obviously in doubt about whether you'd want to be more than friends or not, that's not a good basis to start a relationship on, 2. As you said, you live in completely different countries, and would only get to see one another very rarely, unless you've done the whole long distance thing before, I honestly think that you'd find it incredibly hard, even unbarable, believe me, take it from someone who's been there and done that, several times. 3.what if the relationship were to end badly? You'd lose the friendship that you'd spent, from what it seems, quite a bit of time building... In the end though I guess it's your choice, no one could make that for you, at the end of the day just do whats best for you, and your circumstances. If you decide against taking it to the relationship stage, then just be sure to let him down gently, and explain all of your reasons for choosing so. If you go for it, good luck :) x
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (20 June 2009):
 If you feel this way and you only see him twice a year then I think you know why it won't work. Just tell him how you feel, he's a good friend and will be disappointed but he will still be your friend.
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