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male
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30-35,
*cclareng3
writes:For a while I've been friends with this girl, probably for 5 months. We started hanging out a lot more, right after she broke up with her boyfriend. I started getting feelings for this girl and she started getting really close to me, but the oblivious guy that I am didn't take any chances and I was to shy to ruin our friendship and get rejected. So about a week ago, me and her go to a party together and the ex shows up out of nowhere like always, but this time I think he tried really hard to get back with her and it ended with her leaving with him towards the end of the night. I had about two months to make a move on her but I didn't take my chances. It took me about a whole week after her not speaking to me to put all the pieces together and realize that the whole time she liked me a lot, but I was trying to be so analytical, that I lost my opportunity.After that night, she out of nowhere cut contact with me. I just recently texted her again to see how she's doing and when she can pay me back (I let her borrow money sometime ago) and all she does is avoid the issue that we just stopped being friends and just tells me she'll pays back soon.Can someone explain to me what happened and has anyone ever experienced the same thing I'm going through. Does she still like me or was I just a phase? Will she ever speak to me again? I just wish I could know what could be the underlying situation. Because she was actually one of my closest friends and I miss her. All I know is that the guy is controlling and they've had an on and off relationship for 2 years.
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reader, llifton +, writes (24 November 2013):
 Basically, what happened, was that she was on the rebound and you were her rebound guy. She may have legitimately liked you a bit and enjoyed your company, but I say count your blessings for not getting emotionally involved. I think even if you HAD asked her out and she said yes and you two had been dating, she would have left you for him the other night and left you high and dry. Count your blessings you stayed away. You could be in a world of hurt at the moment. so don't look at this as an opportunity lost. More like a blessing in disguise.
Try to chalk this one up to a loss and a lesson learned. Don't get involved with girls fresh out of relationships. Best of luck to you.
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