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writes:Am 18 and my bf is 21,we met through a dating site weeks ago and fell madly inlove wt each other{though we are in a LDR}. .so we were talking yesterday and he was telling me that he is a christian and don't want us to be having sex,kissin,or even touching each other til we get married.Ok,am ok with the No Sex but for no kissing and touching is what i don't go down well with. . Right now am so confuse cause i trully love him and don't want to loose him. .plz tell me wot to do.
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reader, Darksilver +, writes (7 November 2010):
Thank you@everybody. .i approached him with the issue and he said ok to kissin,cuddling but no touching and sex. .he said he wants our first night as couples special and that he loves me so much and don't want to loose me. .
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reader, CandyKins  +, writes (6 November 2010):
 it's either he just wants to be friends with you or he's strictly a christian.
But try and go along with it, he may change his mind in time. Kissing and touching is something that one does naturally to one another and it's to express your love and affection but it isn't a must because there are another alternatives to prove your love. But I can imagine the relationship being a bit difficult without doing so.
But see how it goes for a while. and watch out for his eyes to see affection in them!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2010):
 No kissing and touching? That is super conservative. What he wants is friendship! I think that you will end up very frustrated and unhappy - you should end it with this guy and find someone more compatible with your needs. Have you asked how long he wants to wait until he gets married? Really think if you can go without physical affection for years... is that what you want?
It is early on, and I would make a decision soon. He may be a great guy, but maybe he's just not YOUR great guy. Good luck!
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reader, Darksilver +, writes (6 November 2010):
I know him well enough to know that is love ok?. . And this sex, kissin and touching stuff is for when we get to meet each other. .
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): Anyone could respect the no sex rule until marriage. But no kissing is a little overboard. You may love him but i really don't think it will work out with all his rules. Kissin isn't a sin in my book. I really don't know what to tell you, other than leave this relationship. But on the otherhand he shouldn't be punish for how he believes. Good luck.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 November 2010):
 Well how are you going to kiss and touch each other when you're in a LDR? Unless when you see him in person, it's basically a phone/computer relationship. Have you met him in person?
It's only been so many weeks, and this guy doesn't believe in expressing affection until marriage. Take away the affection and all you have is the title of boyfriend/girlfriend, you might as well be friends. Now, there's nothing you can do to talk him out of it, because those are his beliefs and you have to respect them. Either go along with his beliefs, or break up with him because you need the affection in a relationship. Perhaps, you should get to know someone better before jumping into a relationship with them..and claiming it's love.
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