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writes: My son's father and I have been seperated for 3 1/2yrs now. He cheated multiple times, so I did what was best for me and left him. We had a bitter court custody battle and really never talked for that time. For the past 2 months we've been falling hard for each other. He has been with his fiance (one of the girls he was cheating on me with) the time we've been apart. I told him if he really wanted to be with me he knew what he had to do...leave her. Well he did it's been 5 days. On the second day that he ended it with her he came over to my place we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he cried about feeling like he just threw her away and that he feels guilty. He still loves her and misses her very much. But when he was with her he was upset that I wouldn't talk to him without him leaving her first. He says he left her because he was sure he wanted me, I told him not to leave her for me do it cuz he really didn't want to be with her, now he just thinks about her. I told him to take some time out for himself but he still wants to sleep with me. I know we rushed things the other day. I don't want to rush things with him. I would like some feedback on what other people think, and if I should even bother. Now that her's thinking about her so much he's really making me doubt if this is really what I want. Help please!!
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (24 April 2006):
 Tell him you won't be sleeping with him till he sorts his head out, and knows what and who he wants.
He can't commit to you again when he is feeling guilty about the other girl, he needs some time alone to decide what he wants and who he wants to be with.
You are taking a chance with this man, he's cheated on you before and trated you badly. You were brave enough to get out of the relationship then, so don't stand for being second best this time around, tell him what you expect from the relationship and don't accept anything less, or you could end up getting hurt again!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2006): Both you girls need to dump him. He still wants his cake and eat it too. Let him go, he will not change,ever.
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