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*ogiebear18
writes: So I have a recent dilemma with one of my good friends. She has been a friend of mine for about a year now and we have grown rather close within that time frame. I am a good friend of hers, and I am starting to develop feelings for her as time goes on. I would like to take the next step with her and asking her out on a regular basis but she has a boyfriend, a rather good friend of mine who, without him, I would not know her. I would usually would just look for another girl but my buddy has been a rather terrible boyfriend. He cheated on her with her best friend twice now and she has taken him back every time. I can see how she interacts with me when her boyfriend isn't around, cuddling, falling asleep in my arms, horse playing and whatnot. What I need help with is what, if anything, I can do to win her over. I hope that you can help me with this problem.
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reader, logiebear18 +, writes (21 April 2011):
logiebear18 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for the feedback and i think i should clear up a few things. 1. I go to school with this guy and i just became good friends with him literally only a week before i met her. 2. when her and i cuddle, she always tells him, all two times. I do understand that i need to get away from that relationship and her in general, i just needed to hear a second opinion on the matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): You are in the Friend Zone. Look it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): while i understand that it's hard to control your feelings for another person, you're being a really awful friend. you were friends with this guy before you met her. and that's where your loyalty should lie. it's completely her decision as to whether she forgives him or not, and it's not up to you to determine if he's been really unfair to her or not. that's between the two of them to worry about and figure out. not you.i'm not saying it's unacceptable to feel this way for her, since we can't control these things. but you CAN control how you handle it. and it's pretty messed up to go behind your boys back and cuddle with his girl and stuff. i'm sure you can imagine how you'd feel if your girl was cuddling and falling asleep in the arms of one of your buddies. you'd probably want to kill him. just remember: what goes around comes around. don't mess with karma. i'm just sayin. i would quit now if i were you. before you lose them both. and before someone else does the same to you.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 Just be a good friend and respect their relationship. What she does with it is her's to deal with. She can either break up with him or go on with this unsure thing. But you need to be a friend and only a friend until she thinks otherwise.
If she feels anything for you, she will leave him and she will turn to you after a while, under NO circumstances should you even attempt a relationship with her while she is still with him, do this so she can preserve her own trustworthiness and so you can make this relationship something pure.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): Dude, find your own girl
Would you like it if It was the other way around?
You don't love her you just think you do cuz you've been close with her.
Oh, and what if you were trying to win this young lady out from under your buddy then she goes and tell your buddy?
Stop trying to confuse her more she is obviously a moron for going back
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