My brother in law came on to me when I was a teen. Now family wants me to forgive and forget. What should I do?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Years ago when I was 15 I went on a cruise with my older sister and her husband. After a night of drinking and partying my sisters husband escorted me back to my cabin and started making sexual advances toward me. I told my mom and dad and everyone in the family about what happened. Nobody believed me. I cut off all contact with my sister and he husband and when I was older I got married and moved away. A few years ago, I moved back to my home town. My family wants me to forgive and forget and have tried get me to go to lunch with them. What is correct here cupid? Should I forgive and forget and let my sister have lunch with me and the rest of my family even though they have never validated or believed what happened? My sister is still married to this man and now from what I understand he is a convicted child molester of a teen girl. I don't think she will ever leave him. What would you do? Would you have contact with her and the rest of your family?

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