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41-50,
*lairebear
writes:hey cupids, i like to get some advice from the males today please, (females welcome too) apologies as its long winded! i dumped my ex bout 3 years ago id been divorced the year before so wanted to play the field (didnt cheat on him) he has always texted me out the the blue asking how i was/was i seeing anyone, but this time its gone a bit further than that... i got a bit peed off and asked him what he wanted from me he repied what do u think, honestly...so i said sex, the shocking reply was youre sooo wrong. we arranged to go cinema he was very much the gentlemen and payed for drink/popcorn/tickets and opened doors etc, afew nights later he came round to watch a dvd, we were chatting when he lunged at me and kissed me and stared touching me i was about to orgasm when he stopped saying i was too noisy (i live with parents). he kissed me when he left. got a text fri night asking if i missed him..i replied as much as u miss me...alot then was his reply,he started sending wierd ones with u me? me u? i said what about us and his answer was 'exactly'...havent heared from him since even though ive texted him. i really thought something was gona come out of this. could he be wanting to get back at me for dumping him? what i dont understand is i really get impression my ex wants us to get back together...when he does text. he was always the type to text me how he he felt/what he thought of me but would never say it to my face, he comes across the big man but doesnt talk face to face bout his emotions. where do i stand??thanks in advance people and keep up the good work!!!
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (24 June 2007):
 I think you are both tieing each other in knots here and what we are seeing is that. I think he probably thought better of going all the way with you because he didnt want to give you the impression thats all he wanted. He thinks you think he only wants sex so denying himself is a message to you.
I think but am not to sure that the texts are asking if you are getting together. U me? Me u? They are questions. You say that he has problem expressing his feelings and this rather cryptic way of asking a straight forward question fits the bill on that.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 I think u're right to think this is a mess when indeed it is the only way to know what'a going on is to talk to him but it's complicated as he may take ventage or your love feelings getting back to you just to have sex and so on I recommend to relax and think if u wanna risk the emotional stability you got after 3 years or to have a fuck and that's it, it's not that much unless it can huert u emotionally if u ralise he only wants a fuck or some kisses some night
I think it's risky to get back to him and not worthy but u must make up your mind and make a move if you want to get him back or toa have a go eith him cos time goes by fast fot thses sort of men
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Had he been out on the Friday night and had a few drinks? Because you mention that his texts were weird. Maybe if this is the case he summoned up some dutch courage to contact you and was possibly looking to have sex with you at this time. You didn't take the bait so he's probably highly embarrassed. Anyway if he doesn't respond to you within the next few days then in my opinion he was trying it on. Play it cool, just make sure he's not out for one thing.
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