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writes: I met my boyfriend around 9 months ago whilst working for my aunt. We live 100 miles from each other, but without a doubt he visits me every weekend. I was 15 when I met him and he was 20. I am now 16 and he is a few months away from 21. My parents have no problem with this. I have never been treated how he treats me, he spoils me and takes me out and is constantly complimenting me. We planned to move into together and he bought a house. But after around 7 months he suddenly broke up with me. He made many excuses which did not make sense. I was going through a hard time with exams and having to visit hospital a lot as my grandad had cancer and also I found a lump in my breast and also I had miscarried his baby when our contraception failed. He messed me about quite a lot and we got back together for 2 days before splitting up again. We finally got back together after he came and visited me and begged for me back, promising so much. His mum has a serious problem with me and made him choose between her support and me in terms of the house. He chose the support as it was what his life relied on. Now I am staying at home but he is rushing things. He says he never meant anything he said when we broke up and he was sorry for seeing another girl straight after me. Now he is asking me to move in with him again in about 1 or 2 years time. Do you think I am doing the right thing by saying that I am not ready for that anymore and that I would rather get my 5-7 years of education out of the way first?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2006): Youre always better off taking things slowly, especially if he keeps breaking up with you...you come first at the end of the day, do all the things you want to do, eg, exams etc...Dont let him pressure you into anything...always be wary with anyone that always want to get in there too quickly...if he keeps on, hes not worth it. Take my advice, i've been there and it turned sour when he moved in.Good luck with things anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): well there are a couple of things to look at.
yes, do your eduacation and do what you need to.
if he is genuinely sorry about the other girl and splitting up with you then i see no reason for you to be happy,
but is he still seing this other girl!
do you know if he has ever cheated on you?
have you ever cheated on him?
its all swings and roundabouts, relationshisps are always full of ups and downs, good luck hunni
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reader, Danielle1989 +, writes (19 January 2006):
Danielle1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanyou for your help I will sse how things go, I will take it slowly as I have planned
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): focus on your studies, it sounds like you have already been through so much in your life and your only so young, their is plenty of men out their and the one you are seeing just seems to be adding to your stress which you do not need. focus on your studies, education is so important these days it can help set you up for the rest of your life. if this guy really cares about you he will respect you and your needs and whats best for you, and if you wanna keep going on with your educationt then you do it, if this guy loves you then he will understand, if he trys to pressure you into doing something you dont want to do then maybe his not keeping your best intrests at heart and only thinking of himself.
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