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writes:me and my boyfriend been dating for 1 year and 4 months. last night i got drunk and talked to him about everything and how i feel about him, even the bad stuff. so we got into a fight and his mom got into it. She is pathic... shes not a good mom here's why:She got kicked out of church for yelling at the precher for no apparent(and i was there). and at of of couple of stores.she gossip so much people hates her.one time me, my bf, and her were at the mall shopping and she got jealous because my bf wanted to buy me something nice. So she walk off and my bf tried to slow her down and she grabbed him buy the arm and told him to fuck off and just embarressing him in front of 50 ppl!and i know she dont like me because Im way too good for her son. also ever since he got a decent job she made him start paying for the house payment, his own food and stuff. and he's only 16! he's trying to save up money to buy a car and his mom wont let him. She even came tohis work place and smacked him and tired to get him fired. He said she was ever like this until he started dating me. She called me pyhco just because i got into a fight with my sister and the fight with my boyfriend last night.to lay it out: i dont want to fuckin see her cuzz all she tell to my bf's dad(they are divorced because she tired to kill by running him over) is im a lil crazy asian girl who always try ruin stuff. I know his dad side the family dont like her because they know too she's wacked up in the head that why they're tryin to get my boyfriend to live with them and not her.And i tried to talk to her and try fixing the problem but all shes says is ok... yea, yea... ok i see you later.want should I do? Should I try to make more peace or competly leave her out of my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): I was your age when I met my husband and in different ways his mother did not like me and made our lives very difficult. All I am going to say is that she will not change her ways unless BOTH you and your boyfriend change your attitude to her. What I mean is..... rather than fight against her give her space. She will continue to expose herself for what she is - which is clearly 'not right'. If you give energy to this problem it will continue and it will become a fight between you and her when actually your boyfriend needs to deal with it. If, in time, he does not step up to this responsibility - changing from boy to man - then I fear you will end up with the kind of weak man no woman really wants. Keep away from her and make plans so that you and your boyfriend can see each other alone. She is jealous I'm afraid.
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 January 2008):
 You need to leave her out of your life. Her behavior is "noticeably" abnormal and fairly dangerous.
Does he live with his mom, or with his dad? If this behavior is affecting his way of being and positive growth, he may want to make a change in where he lives. He is at the age where his decision counts in making those choices.
The mom definately has some major issues going on. It's important that you realize also, this extreme is larger than you or your boyfriend have the skills or abilities to change. I think no matter how hard you were to try to get a long with her, it may make things worse and not better.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 You do not tell her to butt out. You are a minor, and we can assume that so is your BF. THis is between him and her.
Stop spending time around his mom, and make it a point not to get into an arguement with him, when she is within ear shot.
If you and him fight too much to stop that from happening, then take it as a sign that you should not be with him.
Leave her out of your life.
-Frank B Kermit
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