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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and till now things have been pretty good, we've had our ups and downs like any other couple but we have been good together.The only thing that we tend to argue about if that he likes to gamble. This is causing a big rift between us as he took £140 that wasnt his and gambled and lost it.My mum says I should end it with him and never speak to him again.I agree with her that what he did was not acceptable and it was wrong and disgusting.But I feel like I want to help him break this habit. He is extremely ashamed of himself and he knows that he needs to stop and he admits that it has become a problem.None of his own family would be willing to help him get over this as they are very much each to their own.I love him with all my heart and we have been through a lot together but i dont think i can just let go. What should I do?
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reader, giordana +, writes (26 July 2009):
giordana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mum feels so strongly about it that she has told me that if i stay with him i would have to move out from home.... this is because the money he took was my mums... well it was the money i gave her to help out with bills and stuff
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reader, giordana +, writes (26 July 2009):
giordana is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice.
I should have said in the first place that the reason my mum thinks i should dump him is because the money he took was from her.... it was some of the rent i pay my mum to help with bills.
I dont know if this changes your opinion
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reader, misztoria  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 Hello giordana, I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend's problem. I had a similar problem with my boyfriend who had an addiction and of course everyone told me to ditch him. Gambling is an addiction, just like drugs and should be treated as such. If you really care for him you could offer to get him help. Does he have insurance? He could seek out the help of a professional who deals with addictions. I don't know how much £140 is in American dollars, but if he gambles a lot, it would help him more to get help than just to dump him and tell him it's his problem that he needs to deal with alone. Not only do I have a boyfriend recovering from a addiction, but my sister as well. Many people leave their family members/significant others when they have problems because they think the person is to difficult to be around, but if you really do care about him and want to make it work with him you should try to get him help. I hope this helps and I hope you do what's best for you also. Good luck!
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