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writes:Okay, my boyfriend and I been going out for a total of five weeks and three days. lol...Before we become gf and bf we been crushing on each other for a year and a half...I think I fell for him and he told me many times that he love me. He said he never felt this way with any other girls but me. He even told me that he loved me with his heart and I felt the same, but he told me...A small request. Not to take away his friends from him. I'm not the person who takes away ppl or my bf friends away for selfish reasons. But..His friend S, he came over to his house ALL the time. I'm scared, cause this friend got my bf on smoking, and my bf is trying to stop. S and I don't get alone. I think he's trying to get my bf and I to break up. My bf and I dont spend nomore time together except at school, and still S bugs us. I dont want to take away my bf friends. I felt lonely, and I always have to put aside my happinesss for him. I deal with S bull crap, with a smile on my face. Because I don't want to be the reason why S hates him and they no longer friends. I want him to be happy....but it kills me to think that depiste what he told me, I'm only 2nd to his heart. When he saw his friends, he walked away from me (in the middle of me talking with out saying nothing and greet them) I love him. I never felt this way before, so I place a fake smile on my face like it never bothers me, and keep on walking. Cuz his happiness means the world to me. I honor his request, 'Dont take away my friends'. I want to spend more time with my bf. I want to hear his wonderful voice more. I want to see more of the warmth in his eyes...and at times I wonder if my bf and I should of stay as bestfriends. *sighs* I admit Im jealous...but his friend S is nothing but bad news. My bf and I told me he spending the night at his house. He was surprised that I didnt comment on it....but I felt guilty. I plant a seed. I know how much he's a good person, so I told him "I trust you, love. I trust you not to smoke"...My heart is tearing...I'm only 2nd to him..nothing more. I need some advice. Help!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Your boyfriend just needs to mature and grow up a bit more. He is doing what most boys do, he is trying new things, him and his friend will probably have a pact where they say 'no girl will spoil their friendship' especially if they have a long friendship history. You could try doing other things when he's not with you. Make out that you are too busy when he wants you at his beck and call. He needs to know that you arent just there on tap for him. But mainly he needs to grow up a bit and then if he still isnt treating you how you want then let him go, you don't want him to walk all over you.
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