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writes:My issue is my boyfriends ex wife. They divorced well over twelve years ago. They got married young - they did not have kids together. She is with somebody now and has a kid with her partner. She is friends with my boyfriends sister and they work together. I think he has more contact than he tells me. Surely any woman would know that it will stir problems contacting an ex when they have a r'ship ? Or am i a jealous cow ? I know im insecure and i have trust issues with my man as he has lied so much in the past. He has two mobiles and doesnt like me going near them. He says i should trust him and that im the one causing our rows and issues. Last saturday i was having a rare evening out with my man (he works a lot plus we dont live together) and he got a text from this ex wife asking for a lift later that night (he runs a taxi) - i said to him - oh thought u didnt have contact anymore....his reply was...my sister must have my number.Why on earth would she ask her ex husband? Cant she just phone a taxi company? I dont like any of this and i doubt he tells me the truth at times. Is this normal behaviour and should i feel as wound up as i do ???????? I know they have had previous contact in the past when i looked at his mobile - he went nuts at me for bein nosy. I really dont feel comfy with it and when i tried talkin he got angry and told me to stop the 101 questions. Iv had similar probs with his other ex tho who he does have a kid with. Its really startin to bother me. Help !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Hi, thanks for replying, very helpful. I have decided to call it a day with him. (however i have attempted this several times in the past). Enough is enough and i cant hack an ex-wife floating around that i have never even met nor do i want to. I have been with him over 3 years and i do love him but i dont feel he loves or values me as much as i think he should. Maybe im just too jealous but other things have gone on that contribute to it all. His two ex girlfriends that have kids with him are enough to deal with. I know it is a process breaking up with him, its hard and in the past he turns up at my home or outside my workplace wanting to speak to me. before i know it im back with him and everything goes fine until the next undesirable happens. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Hi, thanks for replying, Very helpful, thankyou. I have decided to call it a day with him. (i have however attempted this in the past). I know it is a process with him. Past attempts i have had him turning up at my home and waiting at my workplace wanting to speak to me etc. Before i know it im back with him. Anyway, i have had three years of allsorts with him. I love him but i dont feel he loves me enough. I cant't hack an ex-wife floating around that i have never met. Two ex's of his with kids are enough. Thanks again x
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reader, edogg  +, writes (6 July 2008):
you need to tell him to quit if he cares enough for you he will!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): If it bothers you, it bothers you. If he doesn't respect your feelings, then he doesn't respect You.. Ask to meet the ex in person. A guy who is really in love does not hide his mobile from his girlfriend, that is if he is really committed to the relationship, and two mobiles? Is one for business use only?
Why would she be calling her ex for a ride? Perhaps because he doesn't charge her. If he is truly just friends with her, then why don't you suggest you two couples go out for a night on the town. That should be your answer right there, if he gives you and excuse, then they are emotionally involved and she is sneaking around behind her partner, maybe not sexually, but doing something she knows he wouldn't like.
If he has lied a lot in the past, why are you still with him? He isn't going to change obviously, and personally I couldn't live with a guy I could not trust, not for long any way.
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