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writes:I am love with somebody but they have just got a new girlfriend, their is somebody who likes me but i dont like them, i just wish i had told the first guy that i liked him but somebody told me that they thought he was married,which i have found out he is not, is it too late to tell him or should i hope that his new girlfriend does not last and then tell him or is it too late. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Dont tell him now but hope it goes wrong and then tell him whats he has been missing, why not give the other guy a go in the mean time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): You are having regrets, hun. In hindsight, so many people have regrets, but really, your regrets are not the truest love are they. If he's with her, he is building a relationship with her and you need to understand that. If you did truely love him you will let him go, so 'he' could be happy. You would not be clinging desperately to all these lovey, idealized thoughts of him. As long as you think this way, here will no way another guy will ever replace him in your life. So yes, it is too late to tell him. He is focused on building another relationship with a female and you have no right to interfere in his and her life. This is called respect--you need to step aside. So telling him would be pointless wouldn't it. And why would you do that to her and him?! I think finding a different a way to view him will give you a way to move on. 'Acceptance' of simply knowing he's happy with her' and if you love him as you say you do..you will want him to be happy. But as long as you keep regretting, there will no way another guy will ever replace him in your life. If at some point in the future, you hear they have broken up, then you make your move but not until after that. Be strong, respect what they have, and recover. Take care and good luck.
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