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writes:Hello, I am in a right pickle, I have been with my partner for 2 years now, we have lost 2 babies and we live together. Lately it has been hard for us and we didn't no whether we should end the relationship, but I dot want to just stay in the relationship because of the stuff we have been through. I am only 20 years old. But I have just found out that his dad fancies me, I know this is mental and its not right but i have always felt there is a connection between us. I am racked with guilt and so is his dad. I am soo confused and I don't know what to do any more. I feel I am to young to be in such a serious relationship, but dont want to hurt my bf.What should I do Please help me Thank You Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Don't go there, please don't. You're confused now because of whats happened and is happening and you want comfort...if you care about your bf even a little, you will ignore this attraction to his dad. Also, be honest with him, if you don't feel ready to settle down, you should tell him before he gets in too deep. But, I also think your problems have something to do with you losing the babies...I'm so sorry...It's never easy and going through something so painful can hurt a relationship tremendously. Have you two talked about it? You're right, this is a lot of pressure for someone young and you should take a step back. Maybe some time for yourself is in order. Go away for a bit, ask yourself what you want and need. Take time to heal yourself and don't jump into anything. Again, talk to your bf...I feel like there's a lack of communication there for some reason. And if after you think more you feel you have to leave, tell him and don't go with the dad. When your mind is clear and you can then decide your future
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 September 2010):
This is a really big sign. You're too young to be tied down, you don't really love your boyfriend and it's time to move on. You need to end it with your boyfriend, because you are too young to be settling down. Then you need to cut contact with him and his family. Do not even CONSIDER going with his father, because your life will end there. No one will want to know you, father and son will be at war and you'll wind up with nothing.
Live your life elsewhere. You've been through a lot, and you need to be alone working on your life and your own dreams.
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reader, romany +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Your not going to like this, but i'm gonna say it anyway, its wrong wrong wrong.
You dont want to hurt your boyfriend, but ending with him and getting with his dad wouldn't just hurt him, it'll destroy him!.
End it with him if your not happy, go your seperate ways and stay away from his dad!
You say you dont want a serious relationship, So why would you even think of taking his dad from him, destoying his family, as there will be sides taken by relatives, when your not in it for life long committment!
End it with your boyfriend, he deserves better, and then just stay away from the both of them.
If his dad is your soul mate, he'll still be there for you in a year or so down the road, but you have to stop thinking of your desires and think about your boyfriend. But as it is now, its just so wrong.
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