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writes:How serious is footsie as a flirtation tool? My boyfriend's older brother keeps trying to play it with me under the table during dinner (and I'm usually sitting next to my boyfriend). Whilst I admit I have feelings for him (albeit, physical ones) I've never intended to act on them, hoping they will fade away given time. Now I wonder if these regular games (each one more intense) are either A. an indication of his feelings, ie: he fancies me enough that he would risk hurting his younger brother; B. he knows how I feel about him (which is potentially possible) and is teasing me; or C. he is doing it just for the innocent fun of it. What should I do, let it carry on assuming it is purely innocent or confront him with an ultimatum? We're both shy so I struggle to see how this all began. Even when alone together neither of us say anything about it. It has happened at least four times now. I want to believe it's innocent, we're very comfortable with each others company, joking around, despite both being introverts. I hope he doesn't see this as flirtation. I don't want to lose his friendship, but I also don't want to hurt my boyfriend for the sake of a Forbidden Fruit crush.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): Next time he plays footsie under the table you should say "Oh ________, you are such a flirt, playing footsie with me, but I'd rather play footsie with ____________ (boyfriend)". Trust me, it won't happen again...lol
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 It's not innocent, and it should be stopped. He will say it's just in fun, but it's not. Tell him to knock it off.
If you're in doubt about it, tell your boyfriend and see how he reacts. He definitely won't like it, because he knows this behavior has only one meaning.
He's not a very good brother, trying to flirt with you under the table. What a douche!
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