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writes:My boyfriend has a brother named *Jack and he has a child with his ex fiancee who left him a little less than a year ago.. Jack started to see a girl recently named *Dianne. My first impression of Dianne was not a very good one, she never looked anyone in the eye while she was speaking.. It was almost like she was hiding something or she was constantly lying.I felt as though she was weird, but I would deal with it because that's just what you do. She started to get notably weirder, she would always cut off people when they were speaking and speak in a tone that was like she was lying, or high on something.. It was really awkward for everyone. Jack seemed alright with it though so no one really mentioned anything.Anyway, My boyfriend texts me tonight after me mentioning something about her, and he tells me that Jack tried to end it with her but she just pretended like she didn't hear him or something and she's acting like it never happened. Apparently she is a little bit insane and she would empty their entire medicine cabinet on the floor for no reason and she would throw chairs in angry fits. They JUST moved in together. like literally the apartment warming party was supposed to be yesterday.I'm concerned about Jack, because she seems violent and destructive. I expressed my concern to my guy and he just said that he'll be fine because he's dealt with crazy GFs before. Do I have this right to be concerned? I know it's not my business but I just have this weird guy feeling that she'll do something radical. It's scary. I'm not supposed to know all this either, so it's not like I can mention anything to Jack. Should I be doing something, if anything?*Names have been changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all, I really value your input. I haven't heard from my guy today so when I do I'll just make sure that everything is okay with Jack. If anything does happen while she's around me I'll be sure to call the police.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (22 June 2009):
I'm sure he'll be fine. She will probably stalk him for a while after and then he'll just have to get a restraining order. But there really isn't anything you can do. If you try to get involved she will probably be even angrier and think that Jack tells everyone what's going on. And really, what can you do? Have a talk with her? If you happen to talk to her ever (like run into her), just totally BS with her. Don't bring up anything about her being psychotic or "weird." Something like, "Yeah I heard about the breakup and wow, that's too bad. But you're such a great girl you can get someone even better." Even though you know that isn't true, you probably don't want to provoke her from what you've said.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (22 June 2009):
Jack and Diane :) thats cute by the way lol.... Yes you have every right to be concerned, but your boyfriend is right, let Jack deal with it. If you start sticking your nose where it doesnt belong it will cause even more drama. The only thing you can really do is hope Jack gets out of it soon, but if you do happen to be around and she does something violent, call the police. Otherwise let Jack and Diane figure out there own relationship, sadly there's not much you can do.
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