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writes: I been with my boyfriend for awhile (almost a year.) But his sister (who's only 4) hates me. One day when I went over to his house. He couldn't answer the door so his sister answer it. And cover me with silly string (he saw the whole thing.) I pretty much ignore her when I am over. I got at mad him saying I need to control her more (I say it in heat of moment and didnt mean it). What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 Truthly theres not much you can do. It a four year old girl, just let her be a kid. Your bf wont do much as its his little sister. JUst try and be nice to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): I have a 3yo sister(4 in dec.) does anything from jumping off the sofa....rolling off the bed just to make herself cry for attention. Thats what she wants, shes a only child. Be nice to her see what she does. At 4yo she cant really hate you, its all fun and games to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): I suggest you try and be nice to her; she is only a child and is obviously looking for attention; the more you are going to get irritated with her or ignore her, the more she will find ways to get to you and to frustrate you.
How difficult can it be to pay a little attention to a kiddo of 4; be a little patient and you will see how much easier it is to deal with her; I am sure your boyfriend will be relieved and happy if you don't get so tensed about his little sister; my goodness it must be very tough on him and your attitude towards her will make him more relaxed too.
Give it a try. I am sure you will reap the benefits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): She's only four! She's no threat, stop worrying about a little girl. Also Don't be pathetic and have a go at your boyfreind about his sister, family always comes first so don't push it
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (20 September 2008):
I think that you should understand that she is 4 and you are taking her big brothers attention. She probably feels left out and her feelings are hurt and because she is 4 she doesn't have the maturity to talk to you about it so she is mean to get your attention. Her big brother is more than likely her hero and you are taking her hero's attention. If you have much older siblings it would make sense. I have a brother who is 13 years older than me and a brother thats 6 years older and I myself would get mean when they wouldn't pay attention to me.
If you start including her in little activities she will more than likely be nicer. If you guys want a snack ask if she wants one too and wants to help you make it. If you two play a game ask if she wants to play or every once in a while ask her what she wants to do. A great idea would be take her to the park she will spend some of that time alone and you two can still have the privacy to talk.
I know that sucks at your age to have to do all that but it might make you two closer if he sees that you are good with his family.
Also as far as control no body really has control over a four year old. They are still testing their boundries. They are trying to figure out what they can get away with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): 1 you have posted this already and to try to talk to her see y she hates you then try to fix it also talk to your b/f and say look i love you but your family(sister) hates me. she may fell like she lost her big bro try spending time with the 3 of you!
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