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writes:So the other night while my boyfriend was talking with his roommate his roommate asked if his moms side of the family knew about me. My boyfriend goes "no they don't know I'm dating anyone." I really don't mind not meeting his mom, that's fine.I would Like to but it's not the end of the world. What's making me so mad is that he told me on multiple occasions when I asked if his mom knew he was dating someone and he said yes! So now he's lied to me about it. So that means when his mom came over to his place he had to hide my stuff etc.The worst part is his mom is trying to set him up with some girl because to her knowledge he's single... I know he's not cheating but it's annoying that she calls him cause his mom tells her to. His reason for me not meeting her is she meddles in relationships. But she lives 2 hours away and the woman we are going to be living with is her ex best friend soooooo she wont be coming over. I don't know am I overreacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2014): He is scamming you. If he won't tell his mother about you and introduce you two, as well as stop other women from calling him then break up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2014): If your boyfriend is in his late 20's like you are, none of this makes any sense. His mother can only meddle in his relationships, if he's too much of a wuss not to allow it.
When will his balls drop, and he'll become man enough to date whomever he pleases?
You shouldn't be a secret. How long does he plan to keep it anyway? Wouldn't that make it awfully convenient for him to have women call and text, just to blame it on his mother?
Open your eyes, girlfriend. He's not being straight with you. He wants to meet women on the side, and claiming it's all his mother's doing. You've already caught him in a lie.
Even if I'm wrong about that, when's he going to grow-up and stop being afraid mommy will meddle? You can meet her, and both of you keep your distances.
Guys who can't keep their mother's out of their business are low on testosterone and fortitude. Once you're a man, we make our own decisions. We hope for her blessings, and value her advice. She no longer tells us what to do, or who to be with.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 August 2014):
 I don't think you are overreacting, One thing is not wanting too share too much about private life ,another having to ( or wanting to ) keep your gf the best kep secret since the plans for invading Cuba.
So yes, your annoyance is legitimate as long as you are annoyed with the right person, i.e.
your bf. Not with the girl who calls- she obviously has been told she can call, so she does. Not with his mom, if she thinks her son is single why shouldn't she indulge n a bit of matchmaking- since obviously her son has not expressely forbidden her to do that.
I think your boyfriend is behaving horribly, and you should not go along with it. Even buying his explanation ( he does not want his mom to meddle in his love life ) - that would also make the perfect reason for him to answer his mother : no mom, don't try and set me up with anybody- my love life is very private, so please do not try and meddle with it by hooking me up with strangers.
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reader, E love +, writes (3 August 2014):
He sounds a little like he's unsure.of his feelings for you because believe me if he really really likes you hell tell his mom hes actually talkin to sum one especially if.they have such a open relationship like that, not to say he doesn't like you I'm sure he does if your dating and I dunno if you guys been talking long or if sex is involved buuut I always Let a guy know what I'm feeling especially if sex is involved. and if they.come off as Like.wow I dont have time this then there not the one for you and you need to.drop em because believe me.when a man really likes you hell.do.what ever he can to reassure.you that you are.special.to.him...
I say talk to.him and let him know what your curious about and if sex is in the picture take it out. Im sure he wouldnt like it if this whole situation was on.the flip side.
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